Commitment or bust? On April 11, 2017, the Libra full moon shines the spotlight on our partnerships and commitment, marking a major turning point. It’s time to go in all the way—or go home.
Relationship check-in time! Peace and harmony is the Libra way—this balanced sign counts Gandhi, John Lennon and Alfred Nobel (of the Nobel Peace Prize)—among its ranks, after all. So typically, a Libra full moon would be the occasion to celebrate our soft spot for all of mankind, passing out olive branches and goodwill.
While Libra loves compromise, that could be a tricky aim to achieve this year. With the Libra full moon forming a tense square to powermonger Pluto, you may not be able to get past a sticking point. A power struggle could disrupt a key relationship and goals won’t easily align. This unusually charged Libra full moon could also help you release that which you cannot control, reminding you that a strong interpersonal connection is more important than winning or being right all the time. With this full moon arriving in the wake of a U.S. airstrike on Syria, achieving compromise on the world stage could be especially challenging.
In our personal and professional lives, the Libra full moon encourages us all to quit wavering and sign on the proverbial dotted line. It’s time to make an important alliance official! Sign a contract, accept an offer, or partner up—just make sure you spell out your roles in crystal-clear terms so everyone is aware of their turf. But don’t rush! Communication planet Mercury is retrograde April 9 to May 3, which could cause us to miss important points. Read the fine print—twice!
With Pluto in the mix, there’s a need for absolute transparency and above-board dealings. Watch out for a tendency toward reactive or hotheaded behavior. If you catch even a whiff of shadiness, walk away! There will be other opportunities that don’t cost you your integrity. Some might even receive a surprising offer, promotion or raise under these powerful moonbeams. Since Libra is ruled by aesthetic Venus, a change of lifestyle and spending habits may be in order, too.
Partnerships that have been percolating since the September 30 new moon in Libra may finally become bona fide joint ventures. Who knew THAT person was into you? Full moons are known to illuminate unseen opportunities, and this one could blow the lid off a secret crush. Already found your missing puzzle piece? Make a sizable deposit in the “emotional bank account.” A willingness to step into your sweetheart’s shoes can go a long way to bring back the love.
Since the Libra full moon is the first full moon of spring, it is also called the Pink Moon, according to the Old Farmer’s Almanac. Its name was derived from the herb moss pink, or wild ground phlox, which is one of the earliest widespread flowers of the spring. Blooming cherry blossoms also come to mind—though they still have yet to make their annual appearance in some parts of the Northern Hemisphere!
Here are 9 tips for recalibrating your relationships at the Libra full moon:
1. Attract your opposite.
How can you make your duos even more dynamic? While common ground is great, Libra loves the principle of “opposites attract.” Branch out and work the buddy system with someone who knows how to pick up where you leave off. Complementary skill sets make for a total dream team, even if the matchup seems bizarre on paper. In truth, these unlikely pairings can be the greatest win-win combinations. If you’re stuck in a rut, don’t autopilot into dialing a BFF who can commiserate. It would be far more productive to reach out to someone new…someone who has conquered the very dragon you’re trying to slay. Creatives, call upon the gear-heads; engineers, reach out to an artiste.
2. Strive for creative compromise.
As our old-school Aries uncle Sami once said, tapping his fork on the rim of his plate for emphasis, “If you can’t fight with someone, you can’t love him.” Sometimes, you’ve gotta shout it out to reach compromise.
So what’s the difference between hotheaded screaming and productive conflict? The intention behind it all. If both parties, in their hearts, truly want to reach a win-win solution, then all the fighting will come out in the wash. But if they’re digging in their heels just to win a power play, then we might as well wave the (Libran) white flag now and surrender to keep the peace.
Look into your own life: Where do you have conflict or a disagreement? Can you forge a common agenda? Do a little journaling to see if you can discover what each side wants, and even brainstorm a creative solution. You might even “role play” and write out the other side’s argument, just to boost your empathy. You can still respect the other person’s right to his principles, even if you disagree with them. Idealistic, we know, but that’s the spirit of Libra. As Gandhi (a Libra) said, “Honest disagreement is often a good sign of progress.” He also said, “An eye for an eye makes the whole world blind.” Remember that this week!
3. Strive for balance within.
As above, so below; as within, so without. Check your habits, your home, your diet. Where has balance gone awry?
At home: has your once-peaceful sanctuary turned into a noisy hub, perhaps filled with children’s toys or unruly clutter? Strike a compromise: maybe you can’t Feng Shui the whole place or relegate the kids to one room. But you CAN carve out a little sanctuary for yourself, order a few TV-free hours, and go to town cleaning up one particularly egregious zone.
In your diet: have you been going too heavy on the stimulants like caffeine or burning it up with spicy foods? Learn about the pH scale of acid versus alkaline foods, and try to add a few more alkalizing options listed on this acid-alkaline food chart.
At the office: Most of us function on stress and adrenaline at our jobs. Where can you be more awake, conscious and calm around your finances and work? Libra also rules the lower back, so if you need more spinal support (and many of us do), look into standing desk options, or just make your own. You can also try these yoga poses to alleviate low back pain by our Executive Editor (and Libra!) Andrea Rice.
4. Be open to change.
We should never cower like victims when we hear that change is coming. Change is an opportunity for growth, and it’s our duty as human beings to continue evolving. Perhaps something in your life has grown stale and stagnant. Maybe you’re taking your rights and privileges for granted and need a wakeup call.
For a little inspiration, listen to the classic “A Change Gonna Come” by Aquarius singer Sam Cooke:
5. Appreciate the positive traits of others.
Relationship harmony is a major focus of this Libra full moon. Feeding the “emotional bank account,” as 7 Habits author Stephen Covey calls it, doesn’t require a huge deposit. This week, acknowledging and appreciating the little things that people do can be the glue that seals your bonds. Here are a few magic phrases to try:
- “I love the way you X (insert action or trait).”
- “I really appreciate the way you X.”
- “Thank you for doing X.”
It’s so easy to overlook the wonderful gifts people bring us on a daily basis, but being taken for granted can be a huge buzzkill to romance and friendship. Get the love-fest going by showering people with compliments this week. Do you need to be acknowledged too? There’s nothing wrong with asking for it, but be a giver first. The reciprocal remarks may come “automagically” once you start doling them out to others.
6. Join a Justice League of your own.
The scales of justice are the Libra motif, and this full moon shines a bright beam on bias, discrimination, or anything that’s just plain unfair. Appoint yourself a member of the Justice League, and bring things back to a level playing field. Is someone being bullied in your neighborhood, school, or within your family? Would you like to see your office culture be more inclusive? Are animals being mistreated in your area? Do something to help right the wrong. This is especially potent if you are on the winning team. It’s not really a victory, after all, if someone else has to suffer for your gain. Remember that Libra is the peaceful warrior.
7. Consult with a stylist.
Luxe-loving Libra is ruled by Venus, planet of beauty, fashion, and the arts. Personal style is a rich form of self-expression and a powerful way to wear your soul on your sleeve. This full moon helps you identify a signature look; your tribal markings, if you will. Are you feeling like a fashion victim, riding the roller coaster of trends? A session with a stylist might seem extravagant, but could actually save you big bucks in the long run. Working with a pro can help you develop a customized look, and save you from all those costly wardrobing missteps. Image may not be everything, but Libra knows the powerful impact great style can have. Let this full moon teach you how to speak a strong visual language. Opt for a touch of luxury too and splurge on something that stands the test of time.
8. Reestablish your equilibrium.
When in balance, we feel surefooted and stable, as if we are standing on solid ground. Libra’s equalizing energy can be incorporated into our physicality this week. One of the simplest exercises for improving balance is to stand with feet hips width apart; bend a knee and alternatively lift one leg off the ground, holding it there for 30 seconds. More advanced balancers could try this on a BOSU ball. You can also try balancing yoga poses, like Tree Pose (Vrksasana), to improve stability. Hold your abdominals tight while doing these exercises. Again, this helps protect and strengthen the lower back, which is the part of the body that Libra rules.
9. Show your sensitive nature.
Sometimes, all our grandstanding and well-crafted arguments mask very simple emotions: hurt, fear, shame, guilt. Rather than say “you hurt my feelings” or “I’m sad that we broke up,” it seems easier to stage a tabloid-worthy war, attacking the other person below the belt so they feel the same searing pain we’re too proud to admit that we feel. Recommended viewing, even if you’ve seen it before, is Brene Brown’s TED talk on The Power of Vulnerability.
So to bring it all back to the Libra themes of love, togetherness and connection, we’ll end with a quote from Brene Brown herself. “Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”