When Cancer and Libra come together for love or any kind of relationship, it’s elegant and sensual, but also emotional. These two peaceful signs both avoid conflict like the plague, which can lead to harbored resentment. A Cancer-Libra relationship is highly sensitive, since you both tend to internalize your feelings.
Cancer and Libra: Your compatibility clicks and clashes
Where you click:
Gracious and elegant, you’re both the picture of class. You’ll create a gorgeous home together filled with art, music, sentimental treasures, and a gourmet kitchen for your foodie fantasy fulfillment. Keep the freshly whipped crème fraiche and organic strawberries on the nightstand. Cooking elaborate meals and touring the best restaurants is part of your courtship dance and makes for ongoing sensual delights as you build a life together.
Where you clash:
Neither one of you deals with conflict well—or willingly—which can cause resentment to fester. Cancer may hold a silent grudge for years as Libra cluelessly bops along. Libra may avoid addressing issues for fear of hurting sensitive Cancer’s feelings. A few sessions with a couple’s therapist would be money well spent, as you learn a format for addressing the difficult issues. Otherwise you could wind up being the couple that never fights but wakes up one day to discover the magic is gone.
Cancer is water and Libra is air
Head and heart combine—or collide—when you pair a talkative air sign with a touchy-feely water sign. The temperaments of these two elements are wildly different. Air signs love change, variety and novelty while sentimental water signs seek security, comfort and nostalgia. One of you is all about the new, while the other cherishes the old. You’ll have to learn to appreciate this major difference. Otherwise, you could quickly feel like you have nothing in common!
To minimize fighting, one of you should take charge at a time.
Your social habits may need some tweaking to make this work. Water signs don’t trust easily, and tend to roll with a tight-knit clique—many of whom they’ve known since childhood. By contrast, air signs never met a stranger and are constantly introducing you to their latest BFFs. The water sign might be jealous or threatened by all of these newcomers, while the air sign feels suffocated and bored by seeing the same old faces. Compromise is key. The water sign partner will have to be more open to new people and experiences, going with the flow. The air sign will have to embrace tradition and develop more emotional sensitivity.
The benefits of this match is an opportunity for growth. Since water signs can be TOO “in their feelings,” the cooler, rational air sign partner can teach them the power of detaching. The water sign will learn how to take things less personally, laugh at themselves and lighten up. In exchange, the water sign can teach the glib air sign to dive into their depths more, rather than being overly superficial or turning everything into a joke. The water sign may create a cozy, beautiful home, while the air sign fills it with interesting guests, music and art. Both of these elements can be “culture vultures,” and may bond of dissecting a documentary film, singing karaoke (you both could have encyclopedic knowledge of lyrics) or even traveling.
There are four elements in astrology: fire, earth, air and water. Each one plays an important role in the greater whole of humankind. A love match with someone from of a different astrological element can be challenging, but also a beautiful opportunity to evolve. After all, differences push you both to grow and step outside of your own experience.
Cancer and Libra are both cardinal signs
In astrology, the “qualities” or “triplicities” reveal the role you play in a relationship or collaboration. Are you a starter, a doer or a finisher? Do you like to take charge and have a plan, or do you prefer to go with the flow? In astrology, you are both from the “cardinal” quality or triplicity. Cardinal signs are both leadership-driven, headstrong and like to be first. In this love match, you will always need to work on compromise. Otherwise, you can butt heads and fiercely dig in your heels, driving a wedge into your relationship. When you respect each other’s leadership abilities and strength, however, you can be a fascinating power couple who can take on the world or build an empire together. Birthdays, holidays and other occasions are NOT to be missed in a cardinal sign coupling. These are major life events that merit a grand celebration with an epic gift to match. Your signs can be sophisticated and status-seeking—you love dressing up and turning heads as a dashing duo (and yes, even inspiring envy among your friends). Impressing each other is part of your courtship ritual in a cardinal sign love match. Take turns plotting new experiences, surprising each other with reservations or vacations that you’ve carefully curated. To minimize fighting, one of you should take charge at a time. Or, create a shared project where you play to your differing strengths, each of you shining in your own rights, but never competing.
Cancer is yin and Libra is yang
In astrology, every sign has a “polarity”: you’re either yin (feminine) or yang (masculine). In your sign match, Cancer is a receptive yin sign and Libra is an assertive yang sign. When you play to your strengths, you balance each other out, each on contributing a different but complementary skill set. When things are off, you can become polarized. The yin sign can be too passive (or passive-aggressive) and sacrificing, while the yang sign may act domineering, aggressive and selfish. To rebalance, the yin sign needs to work on being more open, direct and confident, while the yang sign should cultivate more patience, tolerance and sensitivity.
Cancer and Libra are square (three signs apart)
In astrology love matches, we also measure compatibility by the aspect, or distance, between the two signs. Your signs are square, or three signs apart. Mommy and daddy issues, anyone? The square aspect is a harsh, 90-degree angle between two signs that creates a push-pull dynamic. It’s the relationship that helps you work through issues with a difficult parent, usually by reactivating old, painful wounds. There can be power struggles and clashing agendas. Don’t expect to kick back and put your feet up in this match. The dynamic tension will keep you active and keyed up. Of course, that could be exactly what you want. The opportunity of the “square” aspect is to teach you how to compromise with an equally strong-willed partner. When you strike that delicate balance, you can make an undeniable “power couple”—a true force to be reckoned with.