When Cancer and Virgo come together for love or any kind of relationship, two sentimental spirits may have just met their match. These two security-seeking signs give each other the space they need to feel safe. A Cancer-Virgo relationship is nurturing, since you both understand each other’s need for domestic bliss.
Cancer and Virgo: Your compatibility clicks and clashes
Where you click:
Packrat powers unite! When Cancer the collector meets Virgo the hoarder, you might have to rent out a storage unit before you rent out a wedding hall. You’re both natural treasure hunters who love to gather unique conversation pieces with sentimental value. Family-oriented, your values dovetail naturally, and you may even bring out a conservative streak in one another. Saving and planning for the future is a favorite pastime for you security-minded signs. You can build quite the nest egg as a couple!
Where you clash:
While you’ll have plenty of backup for those rainy days, how about enjoying the sunny ones? You’ll have to work harder to see the overflowing glass you create instead of always working for more, more, more. Allow yourself to swig from this cup at least once a year. Traveling to historical destinations as a couple is the key to romance…even if you find it nearly impossible to leave the cozy home you’ve created together.
Cancer is water and Virgo is earth
For the most part this is a harmonious blend of two compatible energies. Both earth and water signs seek comfort, security and consistency. The two of you provide that nicely for each other. This is the kind of relationship that can even begin in primary school or college, then last throughout adulthood. You easily slip into a comfortable groove, especially once you live together. Your home can be a cozy, welcoming space—the hub for gathering family and longtime friends. Parenthood can be an area where you shine together, too.
There are differences, of course. The nature of water is emotional, while earth tends to be more grounded and practical. While a water sign might start a sentence with “I feel” an earth sign is probably more responsive to a statement that begins with “I think.” Feelings, to the earth sign, seem random and hard to follow—if there’s a problem in the relationship, the linear earth partner wants you to get to the point so they can figure out how to fix it. Unfortunately, the intuitive water sign doesn’t work that way. They need to process things in a more circular pattern, starting with their emotions and intuition—which, for water, is the most trustworthy guide. The earth sign must learn to respect the water sign’s “gut feelings,” even when they seem to defy sensibility and logic. By contrast, the water sign might want to unpack some of those emotions with a therapist or compassionate friend, rather than with the earth sign partner. Once the water sign gets to the root of what’s bothering them, THEN they can present it in a less emotionally-charged way to the earth sign. The result? The water sign will find a partner eager to problem-solve, rather than a defensive or dismissive person who patronizes them when they’re at their most vulnerable!
You can get stuck in a rut of doing the same-old things or being fearful of change together.
Earth signs can seem cold or overly harsh, doling out tough love when water sign feels sensitive. The water sign can get clingy and overly dependent, creating a parent-child dynamic. Make an effort not to lapse into these well-worn roles just because it’s easy. You can get stuck in a rut of doing the same-old things or being fearful of change together. Bringing in a friend, colleague or family member who’s a more dynamic fire or air sign can help. You might even have a child together who’s a fire or air sign. Instead of treating them like the family misfit, allow them to introduce novel ideas to the clan, and respect their greater need for independence.
There are four elements in astrology: fire, earth, air and water. Each one plays an important role in the greater whole of humankind. A love match with someone from of a different astrological element can be challenging, but also a beautiful opportunity to evolve. After all, differences push you both to grow and step outside of your own experience.
Cancer is cardinal and Virgo is mutable
In astrology, the “qualities” or “triplicities” reveal the role you play in a relationship or collaboration. Are you a starter, a doer or a finisher? Do you like to take charge and have a plan, or do you prefer to go with the flow? Cardinal signs are initiators—they like to lead and direct and manage. Much of the time, this suits the flowy and flexible mutable sign, who may find it hard to make a decision and appreciates the extra help! But when the cardinal sign gets TOO rigid or elitist, that’s where the mutable sign will chafe. The mutable sign needs to flow freely, and won’t abide by the cardinal sign’s dress codes, critical comments or Miss Manners routine. Cardinal signs have discerning tastes and an air of entitlement, which helps them gravitate toward the finer things and first-class experiences. But they can seem a bit snobbish or status-seeking for the mutable sign, who befriends everyone from the postman to the president of the company. The cardinal sign will have to be more down-to-earth and less judgmental at times—and stop trying to make over the mutable mate! And the mutable sign should check with the cardinal sign before RSVPing to random events or inviting strangers over for dinner. Giving gifts can be tricky in this love match—cardinals know exactly what they like and can be very hard to please. The mutable mate should get a wish list long in advance of birthdays or holidays.
Cancer and Virgo are both yin, or feminine signs
In astrology, every sign has a “polarity”: you’re either yin (feminine) or yang (masculine). You are both yin signs: receptive, sensitive and intuitive. When all is good, you are deeply simpatico, nurturing one another and sharing romantic, thoughtful gestures. The downside? Your fluctuating moods may collide, causing dramatic fights that can escalate into an unnecessary cold war. You can also get SO tuned into each other’s emotions that your bond turns codependent. While it’s lovely to build a cozy cocoon, make sure you don’t get stuck in that bubble and stunt each other’s personal growth.
Cancer and Virgo are sextile (two signs apart)
In astrology love matches, we also measure compatibility by the aspect, or distance, between the two signs. Your signs are sextile, or two signs apart. It’s easy and breezy to date a person who lives two zodiac signs away. Your signs are always of a compatible “element” (for example, they’re a Water sign and you’re an Earth sign, which are both of the “feminine” quality). You’ll often have similar values and attitudes about politics, raising a family, which movies to rent. Friendship and communication are the hallmarks of this aspect. Being best friends is easy. Keeping the sexy spark alive? A little challenging. You’ll need to structure “date nights” or set up scenarios that get you out of buddy mode.