Virgo and Aquarius: Compatibility in Love, Sex and Life

When Virgo and Aquarius come together for love or any kind of relationship, you both want to make the world a better place, together! These two humanitarians share the same intellectual pursuits, but you can also butt heads when you become too set in your own ways. A Virgo-Aquarius relationship is incredibly stimulating, since you both understand each other’s high-minded ways.

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Virgo and Aquarius: Your compatibility clicks and clashes

Where you click:
You’ll certainly make a splash in the bedroom, but you may need a rescue boat to pull you back to the surface. That boat could come in the form of a shared intellectual pursuit. Your great minds form a fascinating “think tank,” and together you could solve the string theory or discover a holistic remedy for an infectious disease. Virgo is the sign of community service; Aquarius is the humanitarian. You both want to make the world a better place, and you’ll devote yourselves tirelessly to a mission. Find a common cause and your shared conviction will add depth to your passionate physical chemistry-

Where you clash:
Ummm…okay. Your matchup leaves people scratching their heads in wonder. How DID you two wind up on the same planet, exactly? Virgo’s natural curiosity seems like neurotic banter in the face of Aquarius’ laid-back cool. It’s a bit like the Titanic crashing into the iceberg. Teaming up on a shared venture can help you soar, as long as you don’t try to “project manage” each other in the process. You may be better in a second (or fifth for Aquarius) marriage, when you don’t have to attempt to raise kids according to your vastly different parenting styles. If children are already in the mix, you may need to work with a couples’ counselor to create a workable compromise for how best to raise them.

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Love and compatibility by element

Virgo is earth and Aquarius is air

Astrological odd couple? Your signs move at two wildly different operating speeds—which can create weird timing issues or make you a powerful duo if you play to your strengths. Grounded earth signs like stability and tend to want things to stay the same. By contrast, air is always on the move—the “winds of change” are always blowing for these variety-seeking signs. Another big difference? Communicative air signs are talkers, but may not always follow through. Earth signs are doers who prefer to let their actions speak louder than their words.

You work together best when the air sign brings exciting ideas to the table and the earth sign builds them into a tangible reality.

Because of the earth sign’s rooted nature, the air sign may find them to be unadventurous or “boring,” stuck in a stagnant routine. The air partner may not get the spontaneity and surprises that keep them interested. The earth partner may see the air sign partner as flaky and full of “hot air,” all talk and no action. Or, the dizzying changes can leave the earth sign feeling destabilized and anxious, unable to plan ahead without feeling sabotaged from left field.

So, how can you strike a balance? You work together best when the air sign brings exciting ideas to the table and the earth sign builds them into a tangible reality. The air sign partner will also have to make a more dedicated effort to follow through on promises. Some measure of routine and consistency will have to be followed—even if the air sign abhors tradition. One solution for breaking up the “monotony” of, say, yet another family Christmas? Let the social air sign plan the parties, playlists, decorations, menu and other creative flourishes. And allow for some new faces to be added to the guest list. That way, the dueling needs for novelty AND consistency will both be satisfied. The earth sign will have to be more flexible and open-minded, willing to try the new ideas the air sign introduces. Earth partners will have to learn to be more spontaneous instead of always insisting on a plan. In return, the air sign must stick to SOME part of the plan, not changing the time, showing up late or inviting random tagalongs at the last minute.

There are four elements in astrology: fire, earth, air and water. Each one plays an important role in the greater whole of humankind. A love match with someone from of a different astrological element can be challenging, but also a beautiful opportunity to evolve. After all, differences push you both to grow and step outside of your own experience.

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Virgo is mutable and Aquarius is fixed

In astrology, the “qualities” or “triplicities” reveal the role you play in a relationship or collaboration. Are you a starter, a doer or a finisher? Do you like to take charge and have a plan, or do you prefer to go with the flow? In this love match, it can be hard to get in sync. Can we make a plan around here? Fixed signs crave stability and mutable signs love change. Compromise is key so you don’t drive each other crazy! The fixed sign in this relationship likes to make a decision or plan and stick with it. By contrast, the ever-changing mutable sign is always changing things—adding one more guest, jamming one more coffee date into their day, starting another project before they finish the 50 they already have going. When a mutable-fixed duo plays to their strength, the fixed sign can create a solid structure that upholds the mutable sign’s creative plans. Adaptable mutable signs help the fixed sign to be less rigid—to loosen up and go with the flow. For long-term success, the mutable mate will have to work harder at keeping their word, showing up on time and being consistent. Some plans are simply non-negotiable! In exchange the fixed sign will have to give an inch and be willing to try new things.

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Virgo is yin and Aquarius is yang

In astrology, every sign has a “polarity”: you’re either yin (feminine) or yang (masculine).  In your sign match, Virgo is a receptive yin sign and Aquarius is an assertive yang sign. When you play to your strengths, you balance each other out, each on contributing a different but complementary skill set. When things are off, you can become polarized. The yin sign can be too passive (or passive-aggressive) and sacrificing, while the yang sign may act domineering, aggressive and selfish. To rebalance, the yin sign needs to work on being more open, direct and confident, while the yang sign should cultivate more patience, tolerance and sensitivity.

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Virgo and Aquarius are quincunx (five signs apart)

In astrology love matches, we also measure compatibility by the aspect, or distance, between the two signs. Your signs are quincunx, or five signs apart. This is a fascinating, complex combination that defies explanation—the original odd couple. You’ll either feel like you’re with your soulmate or the devil incarnate…or at least, some kind of strange alien who does everything in a wildly different way than you ever would.  “How did those two end up together?” people will wonder. Your bond is intense, unspoken, almost secretive in a way. The person five signs away from your sign has nothing in common with you astrologically. You’ll need to adapt to your differences, which could take a great deal of adjustment, even discarding a former lifestyle. For one of you, the relationship will be about sex and intimacy; for the other, duty and service. If you’ve both done the requisite self-awareness work, you can make a formidable team when you pool your strengths. You might also come together for karmic purposes—for example, to have a child or heal old wounds, perhaps even from past lives.

MORE LOVE HOROSCOPES:

Love Matcher: See all compatibility matches
Virgo Love Horoscope
Aquarius Love Horoscope

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The AstroTwins

Identical twin sisters Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are the founders of Astrostyle.com and the authors of multiple bestselling astrology books. Their horoscopes reach millions here and through their resident astrologer column at ELLE Magazine.