Trouble in paradise? From October 5 to November 16, 2018, Venus retrograde could interrupt the flow of our most important ties or snap us out of a starry-eyed reverie. Since retrogrades rule the past, ex-lovers (and old issues) can resurface during this six-week cycle.
Every 18 months, Venus—the planet that rules love, harmony and compassion, reverses into retrograde motion. This six-week slowdown can be a tricky time for relationships, when the headlines blare about “Shocking Celebrity Splits!” and our closest ties are tested. If a bond isn’t build of solid stuff, you’ll experience turbulence. While it’s an opportunity to go back and do the necessary work, you’ll see who’s willing to put in that investment…and who only shows up when things are good, fun and easy. Eye-opening to say the least!
Put on your #WarriorofLove gear: Whenever gracious Venus takes a leave of absence, politeness can go out the window. You may notice more rude or brusque behavior, and your own irritation with “stupid human tricks” will flare up faster. It will take conscious effort to be kind and compassionate. Mother Teresa’s famous poem “Anyway” might be worth printing and sticking on the fridge now:
People are often unreasonable, irrational and self-centered.
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives.
Be kind anyway.
(Read the whole poem here.)
On a positive note, Venus retrograde could bring a refreshing pause to the dramatic scripts of our love stories, helping us step back and regain perspective. Are we truly writing ourselves into suitable romantic roles? And if not, what can we do to recast or change a less-than-stimulating plot line?
Whenever a planet goes retrograde, the directive is to turn inward first: examining our motives, excavating hidden desires, even exhuming a few past demons we haven’t fully dealt with. The prefix “re” is where the magic’s at: revive, reunite, repair, restore, etc.
This year, Venus will spend the first part of its retrograde (from October 5 to 31) in intense, erotic Scorpio, dredging up power struggles, forcing us to look at intimate ties and dangling tempting-yet-toxic “sex with an ex” scenarios in front of some of us.
Then from October 31 to November 16, Venus will back into her home sign of dreamy-eyed Libra, the ruler of committed relationships, mutuality and marriage. Don’t rush to the engagement ring shop or the altar just yet! And be equally cautious about barreling into a breakup.
Venus retrograde demands that you take people off a pedestal and see them through the lens of reality, rather than with rose-colored filters. That can be jarring at first. But is your chief complaint a dealbreaker—or is there something to learn here by addressing those issues together? A wise therapist we know once said, “It’s not that successful couples don’t have conflict, because they do. It’s how they work through it that determines the strength of their relationship.”
Read on to discover how Venus retrograde will impact your sign specifically—and learn how to navigate it with grace and finesse.
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What this Venus retrograde will mean for YOUR sign…
Trouble in paradise? Venus backs through your two committed relationship zones, making you second-guess a partner or rethink an arrangement. Couples’ therapy could be helpful. You could delay or break off an engagement. A long-lost love could resurface for a second chance. Maybe the timing is right? Single Aries could use this time to really think about what you want from a partner. If a friend or relative is taking up the lion’s share of your time and energy, consider putting a little more space in the relationship and reserving that room for a romantic relationship instead.
Love, take two? Partnerships get an overhaul—or at least, a little time under the microscope—as your celestial ruler backs through your relationship house until October 31. You could struggle to feel in sync with others, or might finally bring up a sticking point. Be proactive and solution-oriented instead of just complaining or blaming. Resolve old conflicts and seek closure with an ex. From October 31 to November 16, watch for a self-critical or controlling streak as Venus dips into your health and fitness house. As the planet of beauty sounds the call for self-care, nurturing your body and spirit will be the best retrograde remedy. (Just read those Yelp reviews and make sure any spas you visit are hygienic!) Revamp your beauty and skincare, as well as your diet, switching to natural and organic options.
Venus retrograde in your health house could incite stress-fueled body image issues or remind you to get back in touch with the “temple for your soul” by nourishing yourself and moving regularly. Find healthy outlets (affirmations, gentle yoga) for channeling frustration and book those overdue bodywork appointments. Even a ten-minute “express massage” could be a game-changer now. Monitor your tendency to micromanage and nitpick your mate, and steer clear of those fixer-upper types who always want advice but never have much to give in return. From October 31 to November 16, Venus backs into your passion house, which could bring back an ex or dial up the drama. Watch your temper.
Drama alert! Venus in your hotheaded (and hot-blooded) sector until October 31 makes you a loose cannon ready to fire. An ex-flame could contact you; proceed with caution to avoid messy entanglements. From October 31 to November 16, Venus backs into your home sector, disrupting harmony with relatives, roommates or your living situation. If you’re renovating or redecorating, collect fabric and paint swatches and start a few Pinterest boards, but stay in the planning phases to avoid a costly design misstep.
Home is where the HEAT is until October 31, as a cranky Venus camps in your domestic house. Issues with a female—perhaps some mama drama or sibling rivalry—could flare. Double down on the self-care and affirming mantras, as your moods could swing wildly. From October 31 to November 16, tension with a sibling, neighbor or friend could disrupt your groove. If you can’t say something nice, bite your tongue!
Playing devil’s advocate is a dangerous game while Venus reverses through your communication house until October 31. Choose your battles—and your words—to avoid burning bridges. Money and job tension rise when Venus backs into your work house from October 31 to November 16. Avoid borrowing and loaning funds (or property) with friends or lovers. Thinking about splurging on a luxury item for your home or wardrobe? Hold off until the retrograde ends if you can, especially if it’s non-returnable. Shop around and definitely sleep on it!
Arguments about money could erupt while Venus backs through your financial house until October 31. Tension could flare with coworkers or a client. Lock up those credit cards: Impulse purchases could lead to buyer’s remorse, as your normally spot-on style and taste could miss the mark. From October 31 to November 16, Venus is retrograde in Libra, which could leave you feeling misunderstood, confused and in need of personal space. Fly solo and carve out more “me time.” Use this period to reflect on what YOU desire from love, and to work on being less of a people-pleaser.
Time for a break? You need space to reconnect with YOUR needs while Venus backs through Scorpio until October 31. If you’re not feeling beautiful, desirable or magnetic, get really clear about what’s blocking that, and change your focus! From October 31 on, a swoonworthy (but questionably trustworthy) type could sweep you to la-la land as Venus visits your fantasy house. Is this person really a wolf in dream-lover’s clothing? Slow down to avoid finding out the hard way. If you’ve been holding onto a grudge or resentment (#ScorpioIssues) do the tough but necessary work of clearing that up. Forgiveness is not only divine, it will set YOU free from the painful grips of the past.
Wherever you go, there you are. Until October 31, Venus is in your twelfth house of closure and illusions. Clean up your own romantic backyard instead of projecting blame on a mate or looking for the Holy Grail of lovers. Watch for rifts in your social circle when Venus backs into your friendship house October 31 to November 16. Reduce your time on dating apps while Venus retrogrades through this technology-driven sector. Maybe go mingle and meet people in the flesh instead? On a positive note, this could be a great time to reunite with cherished old friends.
Collaboration chaos? A team could lose steam as Venus backspins through your group sector until April 3. Experimenting with an open relationship or online dating could also go awry, so tread (and swipe) lightly. Office politics can consume you after October 31 when Venus backs into your career house. Be careful about mixing business and pleasure! An attraction to someone significantly older or younger than you could pull you into difficult dynamics.
Daddy issues? With Venus retrograde in your paternal zone, resolve childhood dynamics before they taint your current relationship. You may have reservations about the future and need to pause so you can assess whether you want the same thing (and if you don’t, to invent some new long-term goals). An office romance is ill-advised now. After October 31, you crave freedom. Honor your independent spirit but don’t trample someone’s needs in your quest for “space.”
The world is usually your romantic oyster, but you may feel totally out of sync with new people until October 31, while Venus retrogrades through your ninth house of expansion, risk-taking and cross-cultural connections. Committed Pisces could feel claustrophobic now. If you’re traveling, tread lightly with any vacation romances. After October 31, a sexy ex-lover could resurface, tempting you into a taboo tryst. Feeling frumpy? Reconnect with your sensuality (think: massage, dancing, an undies-drawer revamp). Do the inner work to feel attractive again, instead of getting mixed up with a player.