Astrologers call Lilith the “dark moon.” In many ways, she is your inner bitch — the part of you that rises up in anger when your boundaries are crossed. Your Lilith sign and house placement can show how sexually self-authorized you are, but also where you may get caught up in obsessive affairs. She will also reveal how you defy conventions or push back against the patriarchy.
So wait, what exactly is Lilith?
Simply, Lilith (or “the dark moon”) is a powerful, provocative point in your astrological chart. You can find yours using our Lilith-Black Moon Calculator below.
Lilith is not actually an asteroid or any real matter at all! She is actually the point along the moon’s orbital path that it is FARTHEST away from the Earth. (Kind of like the opposite of a Supermoon.) This occurs because the moon orbits in an ellipse rather than a perfect circle.
Most legends of Lilith come from Hebrew mythology. A sexually liberated and empowered woman, she was chosen to be Adam’s first wife, but she refused to cower into a submissive role…and, well, THAT marriage didn’t happen. Lilith was nobody’s fool — she definitely had a bite and edge! Others believed her to be the daughter of Hecate, the goddess of witchcraft; she’s also associated with magic in modern witchcraft.
Astrologers also call Lilith the “shadow moon” because she represents the part of you that rises up in anger when your boundaries are crossed. (Or hey, you can call her your inner B.I.T.C.H. as in Being In Total Control Of Herself).
Ways to work with Lilith
- Engage in passionate and provocative discussions
- Create inspiration—and create evocative and disruptive art
- Release kundalini energy
- Push back against restrictive rules around sexuality and gender
- Work through karmic lessons with other people, especially in love
- Tap into your fantasies
Find your Lilith Sign
What your Lilith Sign means
Your Lilith sign reveals your seductive powers and sensual nature. This may be a piece of personality that you’ve been afraid to express; or maybe a part of yourself that makes you feel exposed AND empowered at the same time. When unchecked, your Lilith sign can already reveal where you may be obsessive or destructive.
In Aries, Lilith embodies the spirit of rivalry. She may guide you to be publicly active, channeling your anger into action, cultivating an independent spirit and shouting it from the rooftops! Lilith in Aries desires complete domination over your haters, no matter what the arena. You’ll need plenty of outlets for your fierce emotions, especially physical ones! You may bore easily in love or have a drive that’s hard to match! Celeb archetype: Lauren Hill
Lilith in Taurus embodies the spirit of sensuality and this placement keeps you rooted to this gorgeous earth. You know how to use touch, taste, scent and sound to create a seductive atmosphere. Without a certain measure of security or comfort, you can become quite anxious. You are innately full of desire, but this Lilith sign can make it easy to overindulge. You may struggle to let go or leave situations that are not in your best interest. Celeb archetype: Lady Gaga
Curiosity certainly will not kill this kitty! Your mind is your weapon of choice, and you want to try it ALL! You love to share stories of every luscious experience and may have gifts as a writer or speaker. But with this unfiltered placement your sharp tongue can get you in trouble. You can run hot and cold, falling out of love as quickly as you fall in. Celeb archetype: Lena Dunham
Can you say, “hot mama?” With Lilith in maternal Cancer, you are the embodiment of feminine power. You may be equal parts nurturer and seductress. Playing caretaker to loved ones can be a pitfall however, and you may have a “need to be needed” that can drain you. Learn how to give by choice and put up healthy boundaries. Celeb archetype: Angelica Houston
Hold that gorgeous head high! At the zenith of this Lilith placement, you are a bright light who captivates attention when you walk in any room. You’re a noble queen who seduces with her confidence and visual appeal. On the down side, you can also get addicted to the validation of others, forgetting to be self-authorized. While you have good reason to adore your own reflection (and enjoy glamour!), your romantic choices can get stuck in the physical attraction realm. Push yourself to plunge deeper. Celeb archetype: Marilyn Monroe
Lilith in Virgo can make you quite discerning—you just KNOW quality when you see it. But you can also take Virgo’s perfectionist tendencies to a whole new level! With your keen eye, you could find success in a stylish field like photography and fashion. Watch out for control issues or a tendency to place impossible standards on yourself or your S.O. Celeb archetype: Kylie Jenner
In Libra, Lilith will strive for—and struggle with—balance. You want to be the perfect, loving partner AND a strong individual. Work hard to retain your own identity instead of getting lost in a couple bubble. You are a desirable mate with just a dash of mystery. The camera loves you! A tendency to romanticize can leave you with unrealistic expectations from love. Celeb archetype: Kim Kardashian
Lilith doesn’t have an official ruling sign, but many astrologers suggest Scorpio as her queen, given the sign’s association with sex, death, and other taboos. Lilith does feel at home here, blessing you with amplified powers of seduction, business acumen, and psychic connection. What more can you ask for, really? Use your powers wisely! Celeb archetype: Beyonce
Lilith in Sagittarius people can be unrepentant hedonists. Whether it’s the most exotic vacation or the wildest party, you want to experience everything that life has to offer—no limits for you! You are prone to excess, which may affect your health if you aren’t careful. Cultivate patience for the “mundane” feelings of others. Your truth bombs can create serious destruction so think before you speak. Celeb archetype: Nicki Minaj
With Lilith in Capricorn, you want the best of the best, thriving on achievement and status. If unchecked, your thirst for power may grow insatiable or you may be attracted to people for their external success and forgetting to look within. Although no one can stop you from climbing that perpetual ladder, be careful that you aren’t always bringing business in the boudoir. Power couple fantasies may be your ultimate reality. Celeb archetype: Sarah Jessica Parker
In Aquarius, Lilith is the embodiment of rebellious tendencies. But hey, what IS “normal” anyway? Anything status quo is basically boring as hell to this Lilith placement. You are an old soul, a visionary…a revolutionary! Because you’re so otherworldly, you may struggle to have a sense of belonging. Once you embrace your unique traits, however, you’ll find that you actually belong everywhere. You may be drawn to unconventional people and relationship structures. Freedom is a must! Celeb archetype: Willow Smith
Day dream much? With Lilith in Pisces you can lost in day dreams, night dreams, and all the dreams in between! You prefer the fantasy to the grounded reality, if only because you have the most vivid imagination. You have to be careful not to project qualities onto your partner or fall in love with their unfulfilled potential. You may especially sensitive to toxic substances or prone to addiction. Poetry, music and meditation keep you centered and you may develop gifts as a healer. Celeb archetype: Rashida Jones
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