While every household will play by different rules, understanding each zodiac sign’s innate domestic style can help you sort it out.

What it like living with a Virgo?

The Virgo family member is the happy helper of the family, always there to lend a hand.

Virgo is the sign of service, which may explain why they’re the Happy Helper of their family. Babysitting, yardwork, a ride to the doctor’s office: the Virgo family member never says no when a relative needs them to pinch hit. While this sometimes verges on martyrdom, they wouldn’t have it any other way. Simply being there for their loved ones brings them great joy—and besides, they’d feel too guilty if they bailed.

A strong sense of heritage is important to them. They uphold family traditions through retelling stories, preparing dishes, and educating younger generations on customs and ancestry. Taking a vacation to their family’s country of origin can be a life-changing experience. They might even document it on a blog to share with relatives around the globe.

As a parent, they believe in giving their kids a great education, both when it comes to school and common sense street smarts. They are protective and hands-on in their parenting style, and may run the risk of becoming overly involved in the lives of their relatives. They can’t help it: they want everyone they love to be their best. If that means giving them an extra push, they’ll do so in a heartbeat. Just make sure they’re also listening to what you want.

Astrology tip for living with a Virgo

They say tomato, you say tomahto. Shouldn’t be a big deal, but Virgo is a stickler for the details. Their habit of harping on the little things can provoke epic family feuds. They have to try to be more forgiving of their relatives’ smaller quirks and hangups. It’s not their job to correct their niece’s table manners or to school their brother on how to raise his kids. They can hold a grudge for years over one backhanded comment, but what a price they pay for icing people out!

Missing the important milestones and occasions in their relatives’ lives is not worth being “right.” They have to work at being able to: Let. It. Go.

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