When Virgo and Libra come together for love or any kind of relationship, it’s a meeting of the mild-mannered minds! These two aesthetes love good food and culture, which can make nights out on the town fun and interesting. A Virgo-Libra relationship is laid back, which can also lead to complacency.
Virgo and Libra: Your compatibility clicks and clashes
Where you click:
Virgo and Libra are attracted to each other’s mild-mannered sides, but it will take work to keep this interesting. Advice: steer clear of suburbia. Your match-up works best if you live in a bustling, cosmopolitan environment. Since you’re both bookworms and music lovers, you’ll have easy access to live shows and intellectually stimulating cultural activities that keep your relationship from becoming a snoozefest. Since you won’t be able to resist the mellow side of life, create “Zen and the Art of Your Relationship” by joining a yoga studio together, attending meditation retreats, and incorporating raw foodism into your culinary lexicon.
Where you clash:
Analysis paralysis alert! You’re both prone to pontificating endlessly, but as a couple you tend to be more talk than action. Neither one of you likes to be uncomfortable, so this slow jam could grind to a halt quickly. There’s a threat of becoming a pair of “armchair revolutionaries” here, or worse yet, lifeless couch potatoes. Who’s going to bring the fire? The passion? The zeal?
Virgo is earth and Libra is air
Astrological odd couple? Your signs move at two wildly different operating speeds—which can create weird timing issues or make you a powerful duo if you play to your strengths. Grounded earth signs like stability and tend to want things to stay the same. By contrast, air is always on the move—the “winds of change” are always blowing for these variety-seeking signs. Another big difference? Communicative air signs are talkers, but may not always follow through. Earth signs are doers who prefer to let their actions speak louder than their words.
You work together best when the air sign brings exciting ideas to the table and the earth sign builds them into a tangible reality.
Because of the earth sign’s rooted nature, the air sign may find them to be unadventurous or “boring,” stuck in a stagnant routine. The air partner may not get the spontaneity and surprises that keep them interested. The earth partner may see the air sign partner as flaky and full of “hot air,” all talk and no action. Or, the dizzying changes can leave the earth sign feeling destabilized and anxious, unable to plan ahead without feeling sabotaged from left field.
So, how can you strike a balance? You work together best when the air sign brings exciting ideas to the table and the earth sign builds them into a tangible reality. The air sign partner will also have to make a more dedicated effort to follow through on promises. Some measure of routine and consistency will have to be followed—even if the air sign abhors tradition. One solution for breaking up the “monotony” of, say, yet another family Christmas? Let the social air sign plan the parties, playlists, decorations, menu and other creative flourishes. And allow for some new faces to be added to the guest list. That way, the dueling needs for novelty AND consistency will both be satisfied. The earth sign will have to be more flexible and open-minded, willing to try the new ideas the air sign introduces. Earth partners will have to learn to be more spontaneous instead of always insisting on a plan. In return, the air sign must stick to SOME part of the plan, not changing the time, showing up late or inviting random tagalongs at the last minute.
There are four elements in astrology: fire, earth, air and water. Each one plays an important role in the greater whole of humankind. A love match with someone from of a different astrological element can be challenging, but also a beautiful opportunity to evolve. After all, differences push you both to grow and step outside of your own experience.
Virgo is mutable and Libra is cardinal
In astrology, the “qualities” or “triplicities” reveal the role you play in a relationship or collaboration. Are you a starter, a doer or a finisher? Do you like to take charge and have a plan, or do you prefer to go with the flow? Cardinal signs are initiators—they like to lead and direct and manage. Much of the time, this suits the flowy and flexible mutable sign, who may find it hard to make a decision and appreciates the extra help! But when the cardinal sign gets TOO rigid or elitist, that’s where the mutable sign will chafe. The mutable sign needs to flow freely, and won’t abide by the cardinal sign’s dress codes, critical comments or Miss Manners routine. Cardinal signs have discerning tastes and an air of entitlement, which helps them gravitate toward the finer things and first-class experiences. But they can seem a bit snobbish or status-seeking for the mutable sign, who befriends everyone from the postman to the president of the company. The cardinal sign will have to be more down-to-earth and less judgmental at times—and stop trying to make over the mutable mate! And the mutable sign should check with the cardinal sign before RSVPing to random events or inviting strangers over for dinner. Giving gifts can be tricky in this love match—cardinals know exactly what they like and can be very hard to please. The mutable mate should get a wish list long in advance of birthdays or holidays.
Virgo is yin and Libra is yang
In astrology, every sign has a “polarity”: you’re either yin (feminine) or yang (masculine). In your sign match, Virgo is a receptive yin sign and Libra is an assertive yang sign. When you play to your strengths, you balance each other out, each on contributing a different but complementary skill set. When things are off, you can become polarized. The yin sign can be too passive (or passive-aggressive) and sacrificing, while the yang sign may act domineering, aggressive and selfish. To rebalance, the yin sign needs to work on being more open, direct and confident, while the yang sign should cultivate more patience, tolerance and sensitivity.
Virgo and Libra are semisextile (one sign apart)
In astrology love matches, we also measure compatibility by the aspect, or distance, between the two signs. Your signs are semisextile, or one sign apart. Like next-door neighbors with a completely different style of decorating, gardening and living, the signs on either side of yours can stir up an instant love/hate vibe. Of course, all that friction can lead to explosive sexual chemistry, even an obsessive quest to figure each other out (you never will). Some astrologers believe that each sign is an evolved version of the one before it. The sign after yours is a teacher. However, like a rebellious teen seeking emancipation from a parent, you may never admit that this person has taught you anything. This cosmic combination can make for painful breakups, and a seething sexual tension that lingers for a lifetime.