When Virgo and Scorpio come together for love or any kind of relationship, it’s spiritually stimulating! These two privacy-seeking souls love to dive deep, which can lead to fascinating conversation. A Virgo-Scorpio relationship is detail-oriented, since you both understand each other’s analytical ways.

Virgo and Scorpio: Your compatibility clicks and clashes

Where you click:
A soulful entwining! Both Virgo and Scorpio are reflective, spiritual, and fascinated by the tiny details of life. Although your signs tend to be private, you’ll enjoy discovering the inner workings of each other’s minds. You both probe at a pace the other is comfortable with…not too fast, not too slow. Communication and friendship are the basis for your connection. Although you may not be “rip your clothes off” attracted to each other, there’s a sweet stability to your matchup that is its own brand of sexy. Instead of obsessing about when the other will call or text, you can focus your energies towards creating a meaningful life together. Your home will be a comfortable base camp for your separate interests, and you’ll easily coexist. Elaborate dinner parties are your forte as a couple. If you decide to have children, you’ll be patient and devoted parents who provide their kids with a worldly, well-rounded education.

Where you clash:
Obsession alert? You are two of the most analytical signs in the zodiac. And while you might not fixate on each other, you can both get wicked tunnel vision when life feels awry. You could end up playing therapist for each other, which will strain your connection. Your shared need for control could devolve into power struggles if you don’t mark your turf. If one of you wants the dishes done just so, or the shower scrubbed to pristine perfection, then make that YOUR job. Critically holding each other to your impeccable standards is a recipe for nitpicking—a total romance killer.

Virgo is earth and Scorpio is water

For the most part this is a harmonious blend of two compatible energies. Both earth and water signs seek comfort, security and consistency. The two of you provide that nicely for each other. This is the kind of relationship that can even begin in primary school or college, then last throughout adulthood. You easily slip into a comfortable groove, especially once you live together. Your home can be a cozy, welcoming space—the hub for gathering family and longtime friends. Parenthood can be an area where you shine together, too.

The earth sign must learn to respect the water sign’s “gut feelings,” even when they seem to defy sensibility and logic.

There are differences, of course. The nature of water is emotional, while earth tends to be more grounded and practical. While a water sign might start a sentence with “I feel” an earth sign is probably more responsive to a statement that begins with “I think.” Feelings, to the earth sign, seem random and hard to follow—if there’s a problem in the relationship, the linear earth partner wants you to get to the point so they can figure out how to fix it. Unfortunately, the intuitive water sign doesn’t work that way. They need to process things in a more circular pattern, starting with their emotions and intuition—which, for water, is the most trustworthy guide. The earth sign must learn to respect the water sign’s “gut feelings,” even when they seem to defy sensibility and logic. By contrast, the water sign might want to unpack some of those emotions with a therapist or compassionate friend, rather than with the earth sign partner. Once the water sign gets to the root of what’s bothering them, THEN they can present it in a less emotionally-charged way to the earth sign. The result? The water sign will find a partner eager to problem-solve, rather than a defensive or dismissive person who patronizes them when they’re at their most vulnerable!

Earth signs can seem cold or overly harsh, doling out tough love when water sign feels sensitive. The water sign can get clingy and overly dependent, creating a parent-child dynamic. Make an effort not to lapse into these well-worn roles just because it’s easy. You can also get stuck in a rut of doing the same-old things or being fearful of change together. Bringing in a friend, colleague or family member who’s a more dynamic fire or air sign can help. You might even have a child together who’s a fire or air sign. Instead of treating them like the family misfit, allow them to introduce novel ideas to the clan, and respect their greater need for independence.

There are four elements in astrology: fire, earth, air and water. Each one plays an important role in the greater whole of humankind. A love match with someone from of a different astrological element can be challenging, but also a beautiful opportunity to evolve. After all, differences push you both to grow and step outside of your own experience.

Virgo is mutable and Scorpio is fixed

In astrology, the “qualities” or “triplicities” reveal the role you play in a relationship or collaboration. Are you a starter, a doer or a finisher? Do you like to take charge and have a plan, or do you prefer to go with the flow? In this love match, it can be hard to get in sync. Can we make a plan around here? Fixed signs crave stability and mutable signs love change. Compromise is key so you don’t drive each other crazy! The fixed sign in this relationship likes to make a decision or plan and stick with it. By contrast, the ever-changing mutable sign is always changing things—adding one more guest, jamming one more coffee date into their day, starting another project before they finish the 50 they already have going. When a mutable-fixed duo plays to their strength, the fixed sign can create a solid structure that upholds the mutable sign’s creative plans. Adaptable mutable signs help the fixed sign to be less rigid—to loosen up and go with the flow. For long-term success, the mutable mate will have to work harder at keeping their word, showing up on time and being consistent. Some plans are simply non-negotiable! In exchange the fixed sign will have to give an inch and be willing to try new things.

Virgo and Scorpio are both yin, or feminine signs

In astrology, every sign has a “polarity”: you’re either yin (feminine) or yang (masculine). You are both yin signs: receptive, sensitive and intuitive. When all is good, you are deeply simpatico, nurturing one another and sharing romantic, thoughtful gestures. The downside? Your fluctuating moods may collide, causing dramatic fights that can escalate into an unnecessary cold war. You can also get SO tuned into each other’s emotions that your bond turns codependent. While it’s lovely to build a cozy cocoon, make sure you don’t get stuck in that bubble and stunt each other’s personal growth.

Virgo and Scorpio are sextile (two signs apart)

In astrology love matches, we also measure compatibility by the aspect, or distance, between the two signs. Your signs are sextile, or two signs apart. It’s easy and breezy to date a person who lives two zodiac signs away. Your signs are always of a compatible “element” (for example, they’re a Water sign and you’re an Earth sign, which are both of the “feminine” quality). You’ll often have similar values and attitudes about politics, raising a family, which movies to rent. Friendship and communication are the hallmarks of this aspect. Being best friends is easy. Keeping the sexy spark alive? A little challenging. You’ll need to structure “date nights” or set up scenarios that get you out of buddy mode.