How to Make an Aries Woman Happy

Is an Aries woman right for you? How do you make an Aries woman happy?

If you follow astrology, you may hear some misleading match-up advice. Maybe you’ve heard that you should “never” date an Aries. The truth is you can make a relationship work with any zodiac sign, if you know what makes them tick. Your so-called imperfect match could become your life partner if you understand their astrological nature.

Astrology is a helpful tool for “decoding” people. No matter what you believe, it’s always helpful to have another tool in your romantic arsenal.

So if you’re interested in an Aries, how do you make an Aries woman happy—and find yourself happy with an Aries woman?

The Aries woman

Aries is the first of the 12 signs, the “head” of the zodiac. The Sun visits this sign each spring during Aries season—which falls around March 20 to April 19.

Aries is ruled by Mars, the fiery red planet of energy and drive. In mythology, Mars was the god of war and aggression. Highly impatient and competitive, many Aries women have the fighting spirit of their mythological ruler. They love to play the hero—and they’re also attracted to people who act heroically on their behalf.

As the zodiac’s first sign, the Aries woman needs to be number one. She can be impatient, especially when she doesn’t get her way. Got a lot going on in your life? Prepare to set a few things aside and prioritize your Aries. As the “baby” of the zodiac, the Aries woman needs undivided attention. She has idea, plans and ambitions—and she’s ready to lead the charge. If you’re willing to follow along, she is more than happy to take you on her adventures!

Is the Aries woman your “dream match?”

Symbolized by the headstrong Ram, the Aries woman will put down her horns and butt them against any obstacle until she gets her way. In the elements of astrology, Aries is a fire sign—passionate, dynamic and active. The Aries woman can be an exciting partner, but don’t expect to rest much. You’ll have to stay on your toes to keep up with her!

Aries energy can be stubborn and willful on a bad day, tenacious and self-confident at other times. She can dig in her heels, stand her ground and refuse to be pushed around. That’s not necessarily a bad thing! Confident Aries helps others believe in themselves and champions those who aren’t as strong as she is. The highest essence of an Aries woman’s energy shows up as encouraging, unstoppable, bold, devoted, heroic and caring.

In its shadow form, Aries energy can make her prideful, self-centered, impulsive, bossy, stubborn, reckless and competitive.

Put plainly, this sign likes a challenge—and she also likes to win.

Aries longs to give her heart fully to life and to express passion for every moment.

How to spot an Aries woman

The Aries woman enjoys intellectual stimulation, so you may spot her with her nose buried in a book or her Kindle, at a political event or a fundraiser, or leading a community empowerment project. She can be lost in obsessive thought or crafting an argument to win a long-standing debate. This glamorous and creative creature also loves to adorn herself and can be a gifted speaker. You could find her spending hours filming a video for her YouTube channel, treating her adoring followers to her innovative blend of “thought leader meets influencer meets style maven.”

The “natural habitat” for an Aries woman

Because Aries rules the head, this woman can be incredibly smart and intellectual. And her ruling planet, warrior Mars, also gifts many of this sign with physical stamina and athletic prowess. The Aries woman can be found at the bookstore or on a dance floor, able to seamlessly move from one spot to another with total ease. She could be at a university lectern rousing students with a fierce talk, or performing her original spoken word to a sold-out crowd. She’ll dance wildly to live music, teach her trailblazing ideas, lead a protest or run for office. Since Aries women are competitive, anywhere she can “rise and shine”—to the the delight of her fan base (think of Aries Lady Gaga and her Little Monsters, or Mariah Carey and her Lambs)—is natural turf.

What an Aries woman does for a living

Career Aries might be a lawyer, university professor, politician, strategist, chef, writer, comedian, DJ, athlete (professional or just for fun), salesperson, stylist, magazine editor, coach, advocate, firefighter or professor. The Aries woman might also be leading a division of a company or CEO of her own.

What an Aries woman wants in a partner

Aries women typically have lots of energy. An ideal, perfect match for her is someone who can meet her at this high frequency and keep up with her whirlwind pace. Aries women are confident and aren’t afraid to flaunt that. She is a helpful hero but can also have explosive, intense arguments.

The Aries woman can be charming and it can be hard to say no to her. Know where your boundaries are or you’ll be taking care of all the zodiac baby’s needs instead of your own. What the Aries woman needs is a relationship that gives her ultimate security while having freedom. When the Aries woman loves, she holds on tight. The question is, are you okay with the grip?

Flirting with an Aries woman, “romantic stuff”

Flirting & dating and your first date

The way to the Aries woman’s heart is through her mind (with a strong side of sexual attraction, of course). Even if she acts flirty and childlike, her sharp mind and eyes will miss nothing. Chances are, by the time you approach her, she’s already been scoping you out. Engage in conversation. Say something clever and edgy—and offer a direct but respectful compliment.

The Aries woman needs to be spoiled and adored—as well as intellectually stimulated. Don’t even think of suggesting a casual coffee (subtext: she’s one of a hundred Tinder dates you’re vetting). If you don’t already get how amazing she is, don’t bother asking for her time. A hands-on first date will win an Aries woman over. Get her favorite food (she can be a picky eater), then roll up your sleeves for a community cleanup, head to a political rally or go do something fun and active. Shared values about the world will cause that sexy physical spark to ignite into something bigger.

One caveat: as confident as the Aries woman is, she may feel anxious about your first date. Some Aries women can be high-maintenance (at least about one or two idiosyncracies—from eating habits to hair to other pet peeves) and it’s a good idea to find out what those are ahead of time. Once the conversation starts flowing and the pressure is off, she’ll start to relax. It doesn’t matter where you go, really, as long as there’s somewhere to explore together with no rules or restrictions. A rush, a high, the excitement of possibility—keep that kinetic energy swirling in the air.

Sex with an Aries woman

Great sex is as necessary as oxygen for an Aries. She likes it physical and chases the ultimate high: an idealized moment of bliss where pure love and ecstasy conjoin. Smart flirting can turn to sexual intimacy pretty fast—and she loves to be dazzled by a worshipful and attentive partner.

Since Aries rules the mind, her imagination can be boundless when it comes to sex. Share your fantasy or what you might think as taboo, and you could find her surprisingly willing to try it. She can be a sensual love match who’s loyal as long as the thrills keep coming.

An Aries woman’s turn-ons and turn-offs

If you want to keep an Aries woman happy, know her turn-ons and turn-offs!

Aries woman turn-ons: respecting yourself and her, being pursued (teasing and flirting), being direct, bold and outspoken people, talking dirty in bed, being dominant in some areas (you must match her formidable strength AND make her feel feminine), sharing a sense of adventure, thinking outside the box, laughing at her jokes, sharing a strong sense of social justice, being passionate about life, appreciating food, and seeing the glass as half full

Aries woman turn-offs: sexual hang-ups and prudishness, indecisiveness (especially about her), controlling behavior (such as attempts to prevent her from going out or hanging with her friends), being jealous if she admires or fantasizes about another man, interfering with her goals and success, being overly weak and emotionally wishy-washy, bossing her around, telling her to “grow up,” challenging her too much, ignoring her or denying her attention; pressuring her to have kids, move in together or live a traditional life

Dating an Aries woman long-term

Aries women are pretty direct and will skip the subtleties when talking about taking a relationship to the next level. She will be your number-on fan, your champion, and she expects you to reciprocate that treatment to remain in good standing. Once you’ve gained her respect and shown yourself to have a truly strong character, she will open up and allow herself to be vulnerable and cry on your shoulder. If you are her confidante, you will be bestowed with her trust.

If you step out or cheat on an Aries woman, revenge may come swiftly. Aries feels pain immediately and viscerally. She will want you to hurt and feel her pain.

Although Aries women can abruptly cut you off, it can also take a lot for the Aries woman to end a relationship because it probably took so long to commit to one. A lack of sexual chemistry is a common reason for an Aries woman to call it quits. Or you’re too traditional to keep up with the progressive Aries who likes to be the center of attention, she’ll trade you in for someone who doesn’t tell her what to do or who to be—a person with a quietly-strong enough identity and life of their own!

If she… 

Gets quiet. She’s observing your moves. Or, she’s brooding and giving you the silent treatment. Ask her if she wants to talk about it. If not, let her have some cool-off time by herself. If nothing’s wrong, then she’s probably lost in thought about her latest world-changing endeavor.

Doesn’t call or text. She’s waiting for YOU to show that you’re got the guts to pursue her. Call her! You’ve got nothing to lose. (P.S. She may not realize how intimidating she can seem.)

Contacts you a lot. It means she really enjoys talking to you and she wants to know you better. Answer if you have time to talk.

Introduces you to her family or friends. She sees you as someone who will make a good impression and make her look good. Score!

Compatibility with an Aries woman, by zodiac sign

Here’s what is likely to happen between you and an Aries woman…

Aries: arguing, competition, winning, high drives (sex and other), being a star, doing things on your own terms, freedom

Taurus: intense sex, doting, food, massage

Gemini: books, ideas, music, politics, intellect, mind games, adventure, conversation, and giving each other advice

Cancer: catering to her needs, processing your emotions, taking everything personally

Leo: battling for world domination, love of attention and the sounds of your own voices

Virgo: neurotic habits, oversensitivity to smells and sounds

Libra: social causes and issues, parties, music and art

Scorpio: sex and intensity

Sagittarius: travel, your love of freedom and independence

Capricorn: sex, working out, starting a business together

Aquarius: sports, conversation, fitness, offensive jokes, hanging out, watching movies

Pisces: romance, art, film, procreation, defying convention and rebelling against the world

Famous Aries women and female celebrities

Lady Gaga, Loren Gray, Mariah Carey, Skai Jackson, Brooke Barry, Sadie Sink, Celine Dion, Aretha Franklin, Chaka Khan, Keira Knightley, Victoria Beckham, Peyton List, Sarah Jessica Parker, Rosie O’Donnell, Gloria Steinem, Emma Watson, Kourtney Kardashian, Kristen Stewart, Jamie-Lynn Spears, Vivienne Westwood, Maya Angelou, Suri Cruise, Paris Jackson, Dylan Penn, Jennifer Grey, Shannen Doherty, Reese Witherspoon, Emma Thompson, Kate Hudson, Jennifer Garner, Diana Ross, Nora Jones, Tracy Chapman, Cynthia Nixon, Mandy Moore, Jessica Chastain

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