I*AM In Love: Give Your Relationships The Astrology Advantage
Each I*AM archetype answers this “what is the purpose of relationships?” differently. Sometimes, we can spell it out clearly: I want to have three kids, raise them near my family, and homeschool them. In other cases, it’s a feeling-state we’re after: I just want to be with someone who never stops making me laugh and is strong enough to call me on my crap!
Who you love and how you love is ultimately up to you. We’re not here to make that choice for you. Our job as astrologers is to inform you how each of the three I*AM archetypes ticks, to arm you with quality intel so you can ask yourself: “Are these the traits I want in a partner? Will this be enough for me?” So often, people are either doing the wrong thing with the right person—or the right thing with the wrong person. Love requires us to release control, which is the hardest thing for almost every human to do. Here’s how to use the I*AM System to navigate relationship.
HIGH & LOW INNOVATOR
High Innovator (5 or more): Natural Leader
You’re an excitable, courageous and motivating leader who’s never at a loss for groundbreaking ideas. When you’re lit up about a plan, you dive right into action. Trouble is, your “fire, ready, aim” strategy can lead to expensive mistakes, wasted time, and burnout as you hustle around the clock to meet your goals. Adopting a mantra of “go slow to go fast” can be a game-changer, giving you a chance to evaluate decisions before you’ve set a major mission in motion.
Low Innovator (3 or less): Reluctant Risk-Taker
Where did the passion go? No matter how many brilliant ideas you dream up, you’re quick to talk yourself out of them, citing a laundry list of all the (completely unproven) reasons they won’t catch on. Underneath it all, you’re afraid to be rejected, criticized, or mocked— to risk being a trailblazer. Details bog you down and you may avoid taking chances on anything that doesn’t come with a guarantee. Work to develop a greater risk tolerance.
THE I*AM ARCHETYPES IN LOVE
The Innovator becomes THE IDEALIST with a core desire to unite as a power couple.
The Authority becomes THE ATTACHER with a core desire to build a stable life together.
The Maven becomes THE MIRROR with a core desire to find a lifelong playmate.
INNOVATOR IN LOVE: The Idealist
Core desire: To unite as a power couple
Relationship strengths: Inspiring partners
When in love: Innovators become idealists who see a grand vision for every relationship—and they’ll do whatever it takes to make sure that unfolds. With their quest for novelty, Innovators make exciting mates!
Relationship challenges: Hard to pin down. Innovators hold a high bar for relationships, but some days, their idealism gets exhausting, especially when partners just want to relax and be in the moment. The Innovator’s go-go-go lifestyle can take them away from home a lot, causing their intimate connections to suffer from neglect or inconsistency.
AUTHORITY IN LOVE: The Attacher
Core desire: To build a stable life together
Relationship strengths: Loyal and consistent
When in love:Authorities are the attachers—steadfast, loyal partners who make the effort to create an enduring bond. Daily rituals are their relationship superglue—and creating these are the Authority’s stock-in-trade.
Relationship challenges: Stuck on security. Devoted Authorities are reliable, but what happens when a partner wants to go off script? The natural pivots that arise in relationships can be hard for the change-averse Authority, spinning up conflict with their mates and even causing partners to act out and rebel
MAVEN IN LOVE: The Mirror
Core desire: To find a lifelong playmate
Relationship strengths: Fun and ever-changing
When in love: The Maven becomes the mirror, seeking a soul twin and a best friend who can reflect their best parts back to them. They love to cheer their partners on, helping them glimpse their own greatness.
Relationship challenges: Energy bomb. While Mavens excel at bringing joy and excitement to their relationships, they can also be easily thrown off by minor provocations. They may struggle with emotional regulation and need space to unload their thoughts and frustrations regularly.
DISCOVER YOUR ASTROLOGY ADVANTAGE
"Atomic Habits meets The Wisdom of the Enneagram..."
"Atomic Habits meets The Wisdom of the Enneagram..."
DISCOVER YOUR ASTROLOGY ADVANTAGE
"Atomic Habits meets The Wisdom of the Enneagram..."
The Astrology Advantage is Atomic Habits meets The Wisdom of the Enneagram, based in the science and system of astrology. Order your copy today.
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The Purpose of Relationships: I*AM in Love
As astrologers, we’ve been fielding relationship questions for decades. People, it turns out, are truly confounded by each other, especially when they enter a new relationship. They want insight into their would-be or current partners: Why do they talk, think, and act that way? What turns them on (or off) and makes them tick? And (always) the big one: Are we compatible?
Our belief is: while certain astrological matches can be smoother than others, easy doesn’t necessarily equal better. The person who lovingly challenges us most can bring us the gift of growth. In our opinion, human beings don’t incarnate just to be stagnant or live blissfully unexamined lives. That said, we aren’t here to suffer, either. Which begs another common relationship question that we hope our book, The Astrology Advantage (Simon Element, 2024), can help elucidate: What is the purpose of relationships anyway?
I*AM in love is explored deeply in our book, including what it’s like dating and being in a relationship with each I*AM archetype (what to expect and what not to expect!). This article is just an overview of what you can uncover in the book.
