1 Sign Apart (Semisextile): Awkward Moments

About 1 Sign Apart (Semisextile) compatibility matches, love and awkward moments

Distance between zodiac signs: 30º

Energy: Friction

1 Sign Apart/Semisextile matches

Aries: Pisces, Taurus               Taurus: Aries, Gemini             Gemini: Taurus, Cancer

Cancer: Gemini, Leo               Leo: Cancer, Virgo                  Virgo: Leo, Libra

Libra: Virgo, Scorpio               Scorpio: Libra, Sag                 Sag: Scorpio, Capricorn

Aquarius: Capricorn, Pisces     Capricorn: Sag, Aquarius     Pisces: Aquarius, Aries


About 1 Sign Apart/Semisextile matches

Like next-door neighbors with a completely different style of decorating, gardening and living, the signs on either side of yours can stir up an instant love-hate vibe. Signs that are semisextile or inconjunct (as this angle is called) to each other have no astrological traits in common. For example, one of you is a fire sign, the other is earth element; one is yin and the other yang; one is a flexible “mutable” sign while the other is a stubborn “fixed” or “cardinal” quality.

Of course, all that friction can lead to explosive sexual chemistry, even an obsessive desire to figure each other out (heads-up: you never will completely). Some astrologers believe that each sign is an evolved version of the one before it. According to that theory, the sign after yours plays the role of a teacher—although your pride may never allow you to admit it until years later.

This combination can make for painful breakups, and a seething sexual tension that lingers for a lifetime. (“I can’t quit ya!”) Mostly, it’s because you never figure out each other, no matter how many fights, self-help books and therapy sessions you endure.  

Why you’ve attracted each other & what there is to learn

  • To see how the other side lives
  • To channel the love/hate tension into hot, round-the-clock sex
  • To team up with a mate who has qualities you don’t (and vice versa)
  • Deep healing and transformation, often through painful growth
  • To learn from each other’s differences
  • To force you out of your fear-based comfort zone or emotional paralysis
  • Growth through challenge or contrast
  • To learn how to assert yourself with someone who doesn’t instantly “get” you
  • Making peace with “the enemy”

1 Sign Apart/Semisextile relationship essential skills

Be the “top” AND the “bottom”

Because your personalities are so distinct, you’ll need to take turns being the alpha in the relationship. One leads, the other supports—and vice-versa. Otherwise, this can quickly devolve into a rivalry, with two triggered egos battling for the upper hand. 

Forget about “healthy competition”

In a semiextile relationship, there really is none. Sure, you can inspire each other to be better people, but jealousy can easily flare. Look within and ask: Why is this person my nemesis? Maybe I feel like I’m lacking something because I don’t have what they have. Then, remember that you, too, have amazing talents that your semisextile person doesn’t. What if you combine your superpowers instead of trying to zap each other’s? Not everything is a competition.

Respect each other’s turf

Spending time together or collaborating on a project can be the glue that keeps semisextile relationships humming. Since you may lack enough common personality traits, you’ll need to bond through shared experiences instead. Play to your winning individual strengths, and together, you’ll take over the world!

If one of you is especially awesome at picking restaurants, for example, then the other should let the foodie make the damn reservations. Set your ego aside and let each other shine whenever possible. Following a 50/50 rule doesn’t always work in semisextile pairings. (Otherwise, you’ll go to crappy restaurants half the time!) What’s most important here is that you both define your assets and step out of each other’s way. 

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ABOUT THE AUTHOR

AstroTwins

Identical twin sisters Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are the founders of Astrostyle.com and the authors of multiple bestselling astrology books. Their horoscopes reach millions here and through their resident astrologer column at ELLE Magazine.