3 Signs Apart (Square): Friction

About 3 Signs Apart (Square) love matches, issues and highlights

Distance between zodiac signs: 90º

Energy: Challenge, competition, dynamic balance

3 Signs Apart/Square matches

Aries: Cancer, Capricorn         Taurus: Aquarius, Leo             Gemini: Pisces, Virgo

Cancer: Aries, Libra                 Leo: Taurus, Scorpio               Virgo: Gemini, Sagittarius

Libra: Cancer, Capricorn         Scorpio: Leo, Aquarius            Sagittarius: Virgo, Pisces

Capricorn: Aries, Libra            Aquarius: Scorpio, Taurus       Pisces: Gemini, Sagittarius


About 3 Signs Apart/Square matches

Power! Passion! Intrigue! Your signs form a harsh, 90-degree angle to each other called a square, creating a push-pull dynamic. There can be power struggles and clashing agendas—along with an undeniable chemistry. Don’t expect to kick back and put your feet up in a square relationship. Three signs apart duos keep you on your toes, in constant negotiation and dialogue. The tension makes you active and keyed up. Of course, that could be exactly what you want (or a wild turn-on!). The opportunity of the square aspect is to teach you how to compromise with an equally strong-willed partner. When you strike that delicate balance, you can make an indomitable “power couple”—a true force to be reckoned with. 

Got mommy and daddy issues? The square relationship helps you work through baggage from a difficult parent, sometimes by reactivating old, painful wounds. That’s because your signs rule the fourth house (the mother sector) and the tenth house (the father zone) of each other’s charts. It’s even possible that you were each other’s parent or child in a past life, and have reunited for another karmic go-round. 

The saving grace of your three signs apart combo? Your signs share the same astrological “quality.” You’re both either a flexible mutable sign, a stubborn fixed sign, or a leadership-driven cardinal sign. For this reason, you’ll share some common values and approaches to life. The trick is to balance the proportions, so that you don’t step on each other’s toes. 

Why you’ve attracted each other & what there is to learn

  • Compromise
  • Compromise
  • Conflict resolution
  • Balancing your dynamic, sometimes clashing, personalities
  • Where you can be stubborn and unyielding
  • Healing old wounds/baggage related to your parents

3 Signs Apart/Square relationship essential skills

Take turns leading and following

You know the saying about too many cooks being in the kitchen? One of you is gonna have to ditch those chef’s whites to avoid stirring the pot or ruining dinner. Otherwise, you can end up jockeying for control instead of playing to your strengths. Clear communication and expectations, outlined to the letter, also help. So you need two days apart minimum each week? You want to keep your own homes instead of moving in together? Whatever works. It’s best to spell out these needs clearly upfront—and to willingly meet each other halfway.

That said, there may come a time when you have to give something up for the greater good of the relationship. In a square, unlike in other combinations, it needs to be painstakingly 50/50, split down the middle, equally. Otherwise, resentment can set in, eroding the relationship to the point of destruction.

Deal with your “core wounds”

So, your mother was cold and aloof. Your parents divorced when you were ten. Dad hit the road and remarried, leaving you feeling unwanted. Mm-hmm. You can either work through that with a therapist, or you can reenact the dynamic with each other. (We recommend the former.)

Whether in love, work, or friendship, the capacity for neediness is vast in this combination, so you must be conscious not to dump your drama on each other. Notice when you’re acting like a bratty kid or lecturing like a nagging parent. If you’re the parental one, practice the art of loving detachment and set clear boundaries. If you’re being the whiny baby, step up your level of personal responsibility. Otherwise, the relationship can become a burden. 

Strive for a common goal

The competitive fires can’t be quelled, so might as well use them to your advantage. At the same time, having no shared agenda can seriously weaken the bond in pairings three signs apart. Funnel that restless, go-getter energy into a shared challenge. Start a business. Sign up for a marathon or a Mt. Everest climb. Run for office and hit the campaign trail together. Just make sure you have clearly defined roles and responsibilities. That way, you can both shine…without outshining each other.

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AstroTwins

Identical twin sisters Ophira and Tali Edut, known as The AstroTwins, are the founders of Astrostyle.com and the authors of multiple bestselling astrology books. Their horoscopes reach millions here and through their resident astrologer column at ELLE Magazine.