How to Make an Aquarius Woman Happy

Is an Aquarius woman right for you? How do you make an Aquarius woman happy?

If you follow astrology, you may hear some misleading match-up advice. Maybe you’ve heard that you should “never” date an Aquarius. The truth is you can make it work with any zodiac sign. Your so-called imperfect match could become your life partner if you take a chance.

Astrology is a helpful tool for “decoding” people. No matter what you believe, it’s always helpful to have another tool in your romantic arsenal.

So if you’re interested in an Aquarius, how do you make an Aquarius woman happy—and find yourself happy with an Aquarius woman?

The Aquarius woman

Aquarius is the eleventh of the 12 signs of the zodiac, which begins its cycle mid-winter each year during Aquarius season—which falls around January 20-February 18.

She’s known to do things her own way, moving on a path different from everyone else’s. Some call her eccentric, others appreciate her cutting-edge originality and authentic style. She’s highly individualistic, but also a good team player.

Aquarius rules the zodiac’s eleventh house of teamwork, technology and friendship. She might look like the girl next door on the outside, but inside she marches to her own beat. Many Aquarians are naturally popular, telling jokes and introducing thought-provoking conversation topics. People make her world go round.

As the sign of the future, Aquarian women can be a little “out there.” Aquarius rules casual connections, and she can disengage as quickly as connect. While she can be a bit unsentimental on a one-on-one level, she can be moved to tears by the plight of animals, the environment or other social justice issues. She has a bohemian at heart in some ways, but she also gets a job done.

As a tenacious fixed sign, she can be quite hardworking,  competitive and have grand ideals!

Is the Aquarius woman your “dream girl?”

How to spot an Aquarius woman

The Aquarius woman is the life of the party, on a first-name basis with everyone at the bar, coffeeshop or setting up the Zoom happy hour. She typically has a sporty style and a warm energy, cool with everyone and emotional ideals.

An Aquarius woman loves to clown around and schmooze. A fixed sign in the zodiac, Aquarius are easy conversationalist and can often have the most infectious laugh. In general, they are fun to be around and might be your ultimate “dream girl!”

The “natural habitat” for an Aquarius woman

The Aquarius woman is curious creature who in her free time may be taking her family on an adventurous vacation or daydreaming about one. She could be found jamming to sappy romance songs at karaoke, dancing at Burning Man, or smart flirting with colleagues at a trade show or a basketball game.

Jobs most likely where you’ll find the eleventh astrological sign working are in the entertainment industry, coding or building a website, leading a nonprofit or running for political office.

The Aquarius woman is a thought leader or busy inventing a new line of thought, likewise, she probably has the most outspoken posts on social media.

What an Aquarius woman does for a living

Career Aquarius is an out-of-the-box thinker, typically gravitating to companies that are innovative and original. This sign is ruled by the eleventh house, so they are typically great team players and team builders and enjoy sparing in thoughtful conversation.

Aquarius is the sign of social justice, so they are also likely to be fair-minded and humanitarian and thus are often found leading non-profits or playing advocate for their fellow co-workers. They also bring the fun and foster a sense of camaraderie in any work setting alongside their intellectual pursuits.

What an Aquarius woman wants in a partner

Aquarius is governed by Uranus, the planet of originality, revolution and sudden events. Like her celestial ruler, the predictable Aquarius woman never truly follows convention. Rules were made to be broken, or at least given a modern makeover. The Aquarius woman’s may be someone flexible about having a family. If she does have kids, she’ll enjoy teaching them and taking them on field trips.

The inspiring can-do attitude of the Aquarius woman is exciting to be around, though it may cause you to never feel fully secure. Independence is the name of the game. If you crave a life of adventure and discovery, the Aquarius woman will take you on a journey!

Flirting with an Aquarius woman, “romantic stuff”

Flirting & dating and your first date

Silly jokes or comments get the Aquarius woman rolling and to open up. Really any conversation starter can get the ball rolling, asking questions or asking for advice are good jumping off points, too. A little showing off can’t hurt, going overboard (a 7-course dinner for a first date) might even fly. A good first date could be a night at the improv or comedy club or watching a Netflix comedy special.

Keep it casual, although there’s really no wrong idea for a first date. Worry less about being her “dream guy” and be yourself, even if you’re a little off-center, that may work in your favor!

Sex with an Aquarius woman

A freak in the sheets! An Aquarius woman can be up for an open relationship or other sexual adventures. Not every Aquarius woman is into kink but she may be curious about going places that frighten you. Best to find out early how wide her sexual proclivities range and if you’re better off staying in the friend zone.

Futuristic Aquarius likes to experiment with gender roles, power, and all sides of her desire. She can detach from the touchy-feely side of sex although sexual intimacy is important to an Aquarian woman. She loves it if you want her, but not to be too needy. A sign that rules technology, she may be open to a good sex toy, and the sign of groups, she might be into an orgy or a threesome, or maybe just fantasizing about them. Keep an open mind—she will!

An Aquarius woman’s turn-ons and turn-offs

If you want to keep an Aquarius woman happy, it is helpful to know here turn-ons and turn-offs!

Aquarius woman turn-ons: independent thought, learning new things, having an accomplished career, being a go-getter, confidence, priority on fun and adventure, travel, and being warm and nurturing (but not smothering!)

Aquarius woman turn-offs: being cynical or too skeptical, unsolicited advice on how to run her life, pressure to marry/have kids, being overly materialistic or having no interest in the spiritual or metaphysical.

Dating an Aquarian long-term

Commitment is a dance with an Aquarius woman because he is so independent. But once you get there, your bond can feel like an amazing breeze. The Aquarius woman is a people-pleaser, known to sacrifice her own needs to make others happy, only later to escape—which is where the Aquarius woman could step out on you or “need some space.” It’s a balancing act but it’s not impossible to be the ideal partner for this zodiac sign.

Because she knows so many people and is naturally flirty, the Aquarius woman often gets a bad rap for being a liberal lover (even if she’s not!). She may keep you guessing, but this woman lives by her own rules.

If she… 

Gets quiet, it means she is planning a new world order or lost in a quirky dream. Give her space.

Doesn’t call, it means she’s feeling insecure and worried that she called too much or “bugged” you. Give her a call.

Calls a lot, it means she may want to have sex with you. Pace if it if you want more than just a friendly fling.

Doesn’t make a move, it means you’re drifting into the friend zone. You could try to show her another side of yourself.

Doesn’t make a move after several weeks, meet your new BFF. Yo might want to abandon hope and move on.

Moves fast, it means she likes you (really likes you!). But that doesn’t mean she’s in love. Pace it (unless you want the fling).

Introduces you to friends and family, then you’re in!

If you’re slowly transitioned to the friend status over the course of a few months, this sensual love match is over.

If you break up with her out of the blue, though, don’t expect to get off the hook easily! An Aquarius woman will track you down for answers.

Compatibility with an Aquarius woman, by zodiac sign

If you want to keep an Aquarius woman happy, the Aquarius woman needs a powerhouse partner. Someone who can hold their own and likes to bag about their accomplishments equally is what can make a long-term relationship with an Aquarian possible. Unconventional thinking and having an open mind will keep her interested. Of course she’s not above being swooned by a sweet gesture.

If an Aquarius woman feels she has to make too many compromises in a relationship then it’s likely over, or you’ll be delegated to the friend zone. An Aquarius has a clear vision for her world and likes to maintain her dignity and saves her best love for someone who is respectful of her boundaries, physical and mental!

If you’re an… your common language is:
Aries: friendship, competitive banter (maybe even crude humor)

Taurus: ambition and success

Gemini: books, music, offbeat ideas and thoughtful conversation

Cancer: sex and emotional exploration

Leo: performance, battling for the spotlight

Virgo: control

Libra: partying and networking

Scorpio: sex, mysticism, intense convo

Sagittarius: entrepreneurship, love of freedom and independence, travel

Capricorn: family, ambition, philosophy, sports

Aquarius: fun and activity

Pisces: imagination, spirituality, food

Famous Aquarius women and female celebrities

Oprah Winfrey, Jennifer Aniston, Kenya Moore, Emma Roberts, Alicia Keys, Gabbie Hanna, Tati Westbrook, Sarah Palin, Mischa Barton, Megan Thee Stallion, Ellen DeGeneres, Shakira, Chloe Grace Moretz, Ayn Rand, Virginia Woolf, Gertrude Stein, Toni Morrison, Laura Dern, Geena Davis, Molly Ringwald, Mia Farrow, Yoko Ono, Sheryl Crow, Amal Clooney, Lily Mo Sheen, Ariel Winter, Yara Shahidi, Susan B. Anthony, Rosa Parks

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