Scorpio and Aquarius: Compatibility in Love, Sex and Life

When Scorpio and Aquarius come together for love or any kind of relationship, it’s as though the missing link has been discovered! But these two polar opposites don’t necessarily make the most sense at a first glance. You can strike a balance if you cultivate trust and open yourselves up to each other’s very different ways. A Scorpio-Aquarius relationship is never boring, since you both understand each others’ need for soul-stirring connections. divider-grayhow do your signs match?
Scorpio and Aquarius: Your compatibility clicks and clashes

Where you click:
A strange brew that bubbles with chemistry. Intense, emotional Scorpio and cool, logical Aquarius  don’t make much sense on paper. In real time, however, you have a natural affinity that warms both your souls. As a couple, you provide a missing link for one another. Family-oriented Scorpio shows Aquarius that “settling down” can be an act of endless creativity. (Look what happened when Aquarius Ashton Kutcher met Scorpio Demi Moore!) Gregarious Aquarius helps Scorpio drop the defensive shield and become more open to the “strangers” of the world. You’re both control freaks in your own way, which is fine provided you don’t turn that energy onto each other.

Where you clash:
If Scorpio tries to restrict Aquarius’ socializing or gets jealous of Aquarius’ 834 Facebook friends, your relationship status could quickly go from “It’s Complicated,” to “It’s Over.” For Aquarius, friends aren’t just friends—they are an extended family. Cutting off from them is a no go. Conversely, Scorpio’s seductive conversational style can provoke jealousy in Aquarius. The Water Bearer should not fling accusations of cheating without proof (there probably is none, even if Scorpio DID drift). Questioning Scorpio’s loyalty is the ultimate offense and can break your bond for good. In light of your drastically different social styles, make an extra effort to communicate about fears before they blaze out of control. This relationship does require a lot of reassurances to keep insecurities at bay, but it’s certainly never going to be boring.

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Love and compatibility by element
Scorpio is water and Aquarius is air

Head and heart combine—or collide—when you pair a talkative air sign with a touchy-feely water sign. The temperaments of these two elements are wildly different. Air signs love change, variety and novelty while sentimental water signs seek security, comfort and nostalgia. One of you is all about the new, while the other cherishes the old. You’ll have to learn to appreciate this major difference. Otherwise, you could quickly feel like you have nothing in common!

One of you is all about the new, while the other cherishes the old. You’ll have to learn to appreciate this major difference.

Your social habits may need some tweaking to make this work. Water signs don’t trust easily, and tend to roll with a tight-knit clique—many of whom they’ve known since childhood. By contrast, air signs never met a stranger and are constantly introducing you to their latest BFFs. The water sign might be jealous or threatened by all of these newcomers, while the air sign feels suffocated and bored by seeing the same old faces. Compromise is key. The water sign partner will have to be more open to new people and experiences, going with the flow. The air sign will have to embrace tradition and develop more emotional sensitivity.

There are four elements in astrology: fire, earth, air and water. Each one plays an important role in the greater whole of humankind. A love match with someone from of a different astrological element can be challenging, but also a beautiful opportunity to evolve. After all, differences push you both to grow and step outside of your own experience. The benefits of this match is an opportunity for growth. Since water signs can be TOO “in their feelings,” the cooler, rational air sign partner can teach them the power of detaching. The water sign will learn how to take things less personally, laugh at themselves and lighten up. In exchange, the water sign can teach the glib air sign to dive into their depths more, rather than being overly superficial or turning everything into a joke. The water sign may create a cozy, beautiful home, while the air sign fills it with interesting guests, music and art. Both of these elements can be “culture vultures,” and may bond of dissecting a documentary film, singing karaoke (you both could have encyclopedic knowledge of lyrics) or even traveling.

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Scorpio and Aquarius are both fixed signs

In astrology, the “qualities” or “triplicities” reveal the role you play in a relationship or collaboration. Are you a starter, a doer or a finisher? Do you like to take charge and have a plan, or do you prefer to go with the flow? As fixed signs, you are guardians of your “turf.” You like to plant a flag and set up your base, building an empire from there. If the two of you share an agenda, you can be an indomitable duo. Hello, power couple! But if you’re fighting for different causes, things can get ugly fast. You’ll both dig in your heels and stubbornly defend your territory. When you turn on each other, it can be an endless war, with blame and judgment, defending your point of view just to protect your ego. Your best bet is to channel this urge into creating a shared legacy—running a business together, starting a family, hosting all the holidays. Since fixed signs have a traditional side, you might both enjoy having everyone gather at your stately home for summer barbecues or New Year’s Eve parties. Just be careful not to get SO set in your ways that you insist on doing the same things year in and year out. Fixed signs can be allergic to change, so as a duo, you’ll need to actively invite new experiences into your world to prevent from getting stagnant.


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Scorpio is yin and Aquarius is yang

In astrology, every sign has a “polarity”: you’re either yin (feminine) or yang (masculine). In your sign match, Scorpio is a receptive yin sign and Aquarius is an assertive yang sign. When you play to your strengths, you balance each other out, each on contributing a different but complementary skill set. When things are off, you can become polarized. The yin sign can be too passive (or passive-aggressive) and sacrificing, while the yang sign may act domineering, aggressive and selfish. To rebalance, the yin sign needs to work on being more open, direct and confident, while the yang sign should cultivate more patience, tolerance and sensitivity.

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Scorpio and Aquarius are square (three signs apart)

In astrology love matches, we also measure compatibility by the aspect, or distance, between the two signs. Your signs are square, or three signs apart. Mommy and daddy issues, anyone? The square aspect is a harsh, 90-degree angle between two signs that creates a push-pull dynamic. It’s the relationship that helps you work through issues with a difficult parent, usually by reactivating old, painful wounds. There can be power struggles and clashing agendas. Don’t expect to kick back and put your feet up in this match. The dynamic tension will keep you active and keyed up. Of course, that could be exactly what you want. The opportunity of the “square” aspect is to teach you how to compromise with an equally strong-willed partner. When you strike that delicate balance, you can make an undeniable “power couple”—a true force to be reckoned with.


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