When Cancer and Scorpio come together for love or any kind of relationship, two kindred spirits may have just met their match. These two sensitive beings are both afraid to let their guard down, but feel safe with each other. A Cancer-Scorpio relationship is nurturing and healing, since you allow each other to let your guard down.
Cancer and Scorpio: Your compatibility clicks and clashes
Where you click:
Emotional soulmates, you feel an instant “kindred spirit” connection with each other. Cancer and Scorpio are both innately possessive, terrified of feeling vulnerable, and automatically suspicious of everyone you meet. Although you have the good sense to hide these qualities from most people, with each other you can actually ‘fess up to your fears and find solace in one another’s arms. The nurturing vibes overflow between you, leading you to the happy family life you both crave.
Where you clash:
Jealousy alert! You’re two of the most possessive signs—and when you tread over each other’s trust lines, look out. But you’ve both developed hardened outer shells to shield your vulnerability, and cracking through that could be an epic feat. Since you’re both uber-sensitive, discussions about feelings could become epic and endless. Give each other a “Get Out of Jail Free” card every now and again. Dropping a grudge is not a sign of weakness, it’s a necessity with two people who are as proud and power-obsessed as you both are!
Cancer and Scorpio are both water signs
Into the depths you go! Two highly sensitive and perceptive water signs can get VERY comfortable with each other—and fast. You could go from dating to renting a U-Haul in short order, especially if you meet each other’s parents and families and earn the seal of approval. Home is everything to the water sign. Your solitude-seeking souls need to retreat to a private and intimate hub after being out in the wider world. You could host the holidays, rent the beach house where everyone communes, have kids crawling out of every nook. A water sign home is likely to feature cozily-appointed guest bedrooms and lots of spare pillows and blankets. Your nostalgic signs both cherish family and tradition. Since you don’t trust easily, you may have a small, tight-knit circle of friends that you keep for life. If you open a business together, you’ll create a “family” vibe at the office. (And yes, they’ll be secretly subject to loyalty tests.)
Spending time with friends, coworkers or relatives of another element can introduce a more balancing energy.
While it’s nice to feel so safe together, comfort has its limits. If you wrap yourselves too tightly in this security blanket, it can smother you. A water sign relationship can devolve into a parent-child dynamic (complete with baby talk and cloyingly cutesy nicknames) and self-destructive indulgence in food, drink and self-soothing activities like shopping. You can get TOO deep “in your feelings,” stirring up a tsunami of emotions that can spiral into rage and even abuse if you aren’t careful. Your powerful moods may overlap or spiral out of control if not managed. Although water can be placid and beautiful, it can actually do great damage. To avoid creating a hurricane, you’ll both need to talk to a therapist or a grounded friend before unleashing your anger, resentment or jealousy on each other. Water that doesn’t move can become stagnant and toxic—and a water-sign couple may become possessive and fearful of change to their own detriment.
There are four elements in astrology: fire, earth, air and water. Each one plays an important role in the greater whole of humankind. Mating with someone from the same element offers the comfort of familiarity. At last, you don’t have to explain yourself all the time! You both operate at similar speeds to a certain degree. As lovely as that is, it can also be “too much of a good thing,” causing your relationship to feel like a single track on continuous replay. After all, differences can be challenging in a good way because they push you both to grow. As a same-element couple, you may need to make a conscious effort to not get stuck in a rut or even a competitive dynamic. Spending time with friends, coworkers or relatives of another element can introduce a more balancing energy. For example, a lighthearted air sign can get you to laugh at yourselves and an adventurous fire sign will encourage you to take more risks.
Cancer is cardinal and Scorpio is fixed
In astrology, the “qualities” or “triplicities” reveal the role you play in a relationship or collaboration. Are you a starter, a doer or a finisher? Do you like to take charge and have a plan, or do you prefer to go with the flow? Cardinal and fixed signs are both “take charge” in their own right. Cardinal signs like to lead and initiate—which is fine as long as they don’t tread on the fixed sign’s turf. The nature of fixed energy is to stand firm and resist change unless it’s really necessary. Fixed signs are set in their ways, while cardinal signs are a touch more fluid, though stubborn in their own right! The cardinal sign may introduce too many new ideas into the mix, or worse, try to “improve” on the fixed sign’s ideas by giving unsolicited criticism. This feedback, no matter how well-intended, could threaten the fixed sign’s pride, leading to a major ego battle. The fixed sign could also seem “boring” to the cardinal sign if they want to do the same thing week in and week out. In this love match, the fixed sign will have to be more open to “trendy” over tried-and-true. When the cardinal sign scores reservations at a buzzy new restaurant, resort, club or event, the fixed sign had better clean up and GO. In return, the cardinal sign must patronize the mom-and-pop bistro, the favorite karaoke bar, or another dinner with the fixed sign’s family. The fixed sign’s more traditional approach to romance can seem clumsy or heavy-handed to the discerning cardinal sign. So, cardinal sign, you got a conventional Tiffany locket instead of an Alexander McQueen limited-edition ring? Suck it up and say thanks—or start dropping hints a lot sooner before your next birthday!
Cancer and Scorpio are both yin, or feminine signs
In astrology, every sign has a “polarity”: you’re either yin (feminine) or yang (masculine). You are both yin signs: receptive, sensitive and intuitive. When all is good, you are deeply simpatico, nurturing one another and sharing romantic, thoughtful gestures. The downside? Your fluctuating moods may collide, causing dramatic fights that can escalate into an unnecessary cold war. You can also get SO tuned into each other’s emotions that your bond turns codependent. While it’s lovely to build a cozy cocoon, make sure you don’t get stuck in that bubble and stunt each other’s personal growth.
Cancer and Scorpio are trine (four signs apart)
In astrology love matches, we also measure compatibility by the aspect, or distance, between the two signs. Your signs are trine, or four signs apart. In this love match, it can feel like “home sweet home” The trine sign mate has the same element as yours (fire, earth, air or water), creating an unspoken kinship and harmony. At last—you don’t have to constantly explain yourself. You’ve never felt so comfortable, so understood on a core level. This is the person you can burp and pass gas around, or use the bathroom with the door open when they’re home. But don’t invest in a wardrobe full of elastic waistbands just yet. In trine relationships, you’ll need to preserve some mystery to keep things exciting. Make sure you stay active and on the go, and don’t do everything together. A little autonomy goes a long way to keep the passion alive.