You’ve probably heard a lot of rules about which astrological signs are compatible. Throw aside what you know about zodiac sign compatibility and learn from The AstroTwins how any two zodiac signs can have a happy, healthy relationship. How? By unlocking the secrets of distance (aspects or angles) in astrology.

“We believe any two signs can make it work,” says Tali Edut, one half of The AstroTwins, identical twin astrologers for more than 25 years.

“You come together in spite of astrology,” Tali says about how most relationships begin. “Knowing astrology is about how to make it work. It’s guidance from the stars to help improve relationships.”

She adds: “Not every relationship is meant to last forever, that’s a choice, that’s your creation. The stars guide can guide you on your journey to possibly your forever person.”

Tali and Ophi Edut, astrologers for Cosmic Love, the first reality dating show, have read thousands of birth charts, including for celebrities like Beyonce, Dua Lipa, and Alicia Keys—all of whom wanted to know about love and relationships and compatibility, just like you, if you’re reading this!

Any two zodiac signs can have a happy, healthy relationship if:
• they accept what makes each other tick instead of changing each other.
• they learn how to speak other’s “cosmic love language.”

Toss the ‘Rules’ You’ve Heard About Zodiac Sign Compatibility

Ophi says you’ve probably heard a lot of confusing “rules” about which astrological signs (or elements: fire, earth, air, water) are compatible. Consider throwing away those rules, because modern relationships need tools, not rules. Astrology is that tool.

“You probably tried a relationship with your so-called match,” Ophi says, and it didn’t work. “That’s because people are not just their zodiac sign.

“Who you love is 100% up to you! How you stay connected is where astrology can help.”

2 Ways to Measure Compatibility in Astrology

Compare: Known as “synastry,” measures the distance of two zodiac signs and their special energy or dynamics that distance creates

Combine: Blends two people’s signs or charts into a “midpoint” average which becomes a zodiac sign and the chart of their relationship (called a composite chart or Supercouple chart)

Sun signs (zodiac signs) typically are used to compare or combine to determine compatibility, but you can compare any two placements (moon signs, Venus signs, etc.)

And remember, these astrological tools are just for romantic relationship compatibility but ANY relationships (siblings, coworkers, business partners, etc.)

Comparison: The Secret of Distance Using Aspects

In this article, we explain the secret of distance of two zodiac signs for compatibility, known as the aspects or angles in astrology: same sign, 1 sign apart, 2 signs apart, 3 signs apart, 4 signs apart, 5 signs apart and 6 signs apart.

The 7 Main Aspects in Astrology

The distances of zodiac signs are used in astrology to determine compatibility traits, lessons and skills.

Same Sign (Conjunction)

The energy of a conjunction is self-acceptance.

Examples of conjunction relationships: Megan Fox and MGK, Ben Affleck and JLo

Lessons of a same sign relationship:
• See your best and worst qualities mirrored back
• Self acceptance
• Work through competitive dynamics
• Getting past self-consciousness
• Owning your authentic quirks

Key to compatibility: Same sign couples might find it easy to disappear into a bubble for two but this can backfire. Autonomy is important to keep the dynamic alive.

Skills of a conjunct relationship:
• Don’t get stuck in the comfort zone
• Mix it up with other friends
• Own your baggage instead of projecting

1 Sign Apart (Semisextile)

The energy of semisextile is friction, difference.

Examples of semisextile relationships: Victoria and David Beckham, Sarah Paulson and Holland Taylor

Lessons of relationships one sign apart:
• To see how the other side lives
• To team up with a mate who has qualities you don’t (and vice versa)
• To force you out of your fear-based comfort zone
• To open your heart and try something new
• Growth through challenge of contrast
• How to assert yourself with someone who doesn’t instantly “get” you

Key to compatibility: Mastering this relationship means admitting that someone else’s standard operating proceedure is equally valid to yours.

Skills of a semisextile relationship:
• Be curious about each other
• Give up “your way is the right way”
• Be alpha and the beta (take turns)
• Embrace differences and let each other be

2 Signs Apart (Sextile)

The energy of sextile is friendship and communication.

Examples of sextile relationships: Taylor Swift and Travis Kelce and Dwyane Wade and Gabrielle Union

Lessons of relationships two signs apart:
• Best friends with benefits
• The possibility of great communication
• How to speak up, listen and be heard
• Keep the spark going when it stops automatically lighting itself
• Romance forms naturally out of friendship
• A non-pressure gig with someone who doesn’t demand more than you actually want to (or can) give

Key to compatibility: These relationships can be easy, have a hang-out vibe. After the excitement of discovering you have everything in common, life can get predictable. Distance makes this relationship grow hotter.

Skills of a sextile relationship:
• Add spice liberally
• Use body language, not buddy language
• Have a common enemy or gripe
• Don’t do everything together (do separate activities)

3 Signs Apart (Square)

The energy of a square is challenge, competition, dynamic balance.

Examples of square relationships: Zendaya and Tom Holland, Justin Bieber and Hailey Beiber, Nate Burkus and Jeremiah Brent, Beyonce and Jay-Z

Lessons of relationships three signs apart:
• Compromise
• Conflit resolution
• Balance your sometimes clashing personalities
• Where you can be stubborn or unyielding
• Healing old wounds/baggage related to your parents
• How to be a power couple

Key to compatibility: Whether in love, work or friendship, the capacity for neediness is fast in this combination, be conscious not to dump your drama on each other.

Skills of a square relationships:
• Take turns leading and following
• Deal with your childhood wounds
• Strive for a common goal
• Listen without giving incessant advice

4 Signs Apart (Trine)

The energy of a trine is harmony and ease.

Examples of trine relationships and friendships: Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco, Billie Eilish and Charli XCX

Lessons of relationships four signs apart:
• To feel at home with yourself and a mate
• How to let down your guard and be yourself
• How to be understood without explaining yourself
• To rest and relax together
• Have a best friend and partner in one

Key to compatibility: Cliques can easily form when you’re four signs apart because it’s just so easy to be fun around each other, so watch for that!

Skills of trine relationships:
• Make an effort, even if you don’t have to
• Challenge yourselves to try new things
• Hang out with mutual friends, not just each other
• Have individual friendships and activities

5 Signs Apart (Quincunx)

The energy of a quincunx is adjustment and karmic lessons and compromise.

Examples of quincunx relationships: Rihanna and ASAP Rocky, Timothée Chalamet and Kylie Jenner

Lessons of relationships five signs apart:
• Healing a past life contract with each other
• Exploring and expanding your sexuality
• Driving into deeper intimacy
• Development your selfies side
• Learning to serve or give
• How to adjust to someone vastly different
• Knowing what it feels like to meet a soulmate

Key to compatibility: There is no wiggle room for the un-evolved here. These relationships seem to work best after both people have gone through a profound experience.

Skills of quincunx relationships:
• Know when to adjust or not
• Accept your status as the odd couple
• Discover your shared purpose (you do have one!)

6 Signs Apart (Opposite)

The energy of opposite signs is perspective, contrast, balance.

Examples of opposite relationships: Kelly Ripa and Mark Consuelos, Price William and Princess Kate

Lessons of a relationship six signs apart:
• To see yourself from an enlightening birds-eye-view distance
• To create a powerful tag team
• To join forces to create something bigger than the two of you
• To balance extremes in yourself, like selflessness or selfishness, too much independence or dependence
• To discover a new, inspiring perspective on life
• To develop the art of compromise

Key to compatibility: The tendency of opposites is to go to extremes. But to make this relationship work you’ll need to balance out your glaring differences.

Skills of an opposite relationship:
• Accept that you’ll attract and repel each other (like magnets)
• Take responsibility (don’t blame)
• Get comfortable under the microscope
• See your partner as your mirror